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Do you like hairy men?

Yes I love bears! (I am hairy myself)
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33%
Yes I love bears! (but I'm totally smooth)
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12%
Yes, only if they're not obese
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31%
Only if they are not too hairy
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18%
No I don't like body hair at all...pass the nair plese.
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6%
 
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Postby Stryfe » Sat Oct 23, 2004 6:40 pm

So I happen to like naturally hairy people although I'm not hairy myself. I'm just wondering if I'm the only one or if there are others here that prefer a hairy guy to a smooth guy.

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Postby olywaguy » Sat Oct 23, 2004 8:23 pm

I like a person for their natural self. If their natural self is hairy or smooth I am a happy men. But, if they shave all that beautiful hair that is kind of a turn-off to me.

I prefer a guy who is himself. Both the personality and the physical aspects of the guy is what attracts me to them. The complete package. So guys, don't go altering yourself to please someone. Just be yourself.
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Postby Stryfe » Sat Oct 23, 2004 10:48 pm

Well I'm not exactly asking whether you would choose one as your long term partner. I'm just asking whether body hair turns you on? I know it's superficial and shallow, but it's the thing people consider first before consider a relationship. You know...like considering a straight acting guy to be a suitable boyfriend :)

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Postby Xaphan » Sun Oct 24, 2004 9:13 am

I don’t know why, but the phrase, “naturally hairy peopleâ€￾ caught me as odd and funny. Smooth, hairy, semi-hairy doesn’t overly concern me. I do like one particular feature of a man smooth, but that’s for the shaving thread.
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Postby J » Sun Oct 24, 2004 5:39 pm

Excessive back hair turns me off, but that's all I can think of at the monent.
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Postby Stryfe » Sun Oct 24, 2004 5:59 pm

hmmm...my boyfriend has a little bit of back hair, not pelted, but enough to run your fingers through it. It's kinda fun :) And I just think it makes them more cuddly and huggable... :oops:
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Postby Earl Butz » Mon Oct 25, 2004 12:08 am

Hairy chests are okay on most guys. In fact, I prefer them. Such a turn on. Don't really like beards, back hair, hairy asses, etc. But whatever...it's not usually a deal breaker. You are what you are....
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Postby WebAddict » Mon Oct 25, 2004 9:06 am

I'd like to meet the guy who has a hairy chest (hairy, not a couple of hairs) and no hair (at all) on his ass or back.
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Postby Schlodesss » Mon Oct 25, 2004 9:49 am

Bears....

Yeah, looks only.. and personality, etc aside..

I tend to like a bearish looking guy, however I am noticing lately that I have been finding all sorts of men physically attractive that 2 - 3 years ago I wouldn't have. Which is kinda neat.

I used to be a little bear worshipper too.. but the more I looked at it all, and the few I met or talked with in person or online... [there was a nice one or two..] the more I started to get turned off.. It was almost like you pretty much have to be one yourself [facial hair was "MANDATORY" in almost all the profiles I looked through] in order to have any chance with them or they wanted nothing to do with me. Also it's funny when you meet one and online while chatting you get told they are "extremely masculine....", then when you meet in person, as someone said on here "a purse falls out of their mouth".

So, I dunno, the physical qualties of a "bear" are kinda cool... but anymore I'm kinda [not kinda I am] turned off from the whole bear community/thing... kinda like they'd just cast me out anyway, so too hard too much too soon... and I dont bother.

Actually, ya know...? I don't bother with any Gay related stuff these days... :? This board is about as much as I do.. no desire for that [that=dating, relationship, gay bars, bear club, etc, etc..] anymore. Started seriously feeling that way about 6 months ago.

Years ago I debated joining a bear club around here [London] just to get out and maybe meet some people but I didnt end up doing so. I'm sure there's nice ones out there too...
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Postby Stryfe » Mon Oct 25, 2004 5:37 pm

One or two nice ones? :? I haven't really spoken to many, but all of the ones I've spoken to are nice (excluding a guy on my other forum who's a Jerk)

But it's nice to know that there are other bear (ex) "worshippers" out there, :) I always thought I was peculiar and wierd :P

But don't give up, not all bears only like other bears. My partner is genuine proof that not all bears like other bears :) Sometimes I feel that they have a herd instinct because the rest of the gay world is NOTHING like they are, so they will only date people who can understand them. Thank God my boyfriend is very open minded and has always liked a variety of people including black people, Turkish people, and Chinese.

Well you might say that my boyfriend is an exception because he used to be a skinny smooth kid, but after growing older, he gained some weight and sprouted some hair :P God he's so cuddly, he can keep me warm all winter long.
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Postby RedMenace » Tue Oct 26, 2004 6:02 pm

We needed an option for not being too picky either way. I like smooth skin and I like hair. I'm a bi-hair lover...that's a word now. :D
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Postby edu999 » Tue Oct 26, 2004 8:04 pm

J wrote:Excessive back hair turns me off, but that's all I can think of at the monent.


Ditto.
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Postby nathanjones » Tue Oct 26, 2004 8:27 pm

edu999 wrote:
J wrote:Excessive back hair turns me off, but that's all I can think of at the monent.


Ditto.


well...that and alot of ball hair. :shock:

Wow, they hunt hairy men?

http://www.cnn.com/2004/TECH/science/10/26/bear.hunt.ap/index.html

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Postby Negate » Wed Oct 27, 2004 1:46 am

Xaphan wrote:I don’t know why, but the phrase, “naturally hairy peopleâ€￾ caught me as odd and funny. Smooth, hairy, semi-hairy doesn’t overly concern me. I do like one particular feature of a man smooth, but that’s for the shaving thread.


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Postby Stryfe » Wed Oct 27, 2004 8:28 am

nathanjones wrote:well...that and alot of ball hair. :shock:

Wow, they hunt hairy men?

http://www.cnn.com/2004/TECH/science/10/26/bear.hunt.ap/index.html

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hehe...I like to hunt hairy men too :twisted: :axe: But I don't want to kill them :? I just want to chain them to my bedposts for unlimited fun :)

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Postby Cajun » Thu Oct 28, 2004 2:01 pm

nathanjones wrote:
edu999 wrote:
J wrote:Excessive back hair turns me off, but that's all I can think of at the monent.


Ditto.


well...that and alot of ball hair. :shock:

Wow, they hunt hairy men?

http://www.cnn.com/2004/TECH/science/10/26/bear.hunt.ap/index.html

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Now Billy, I told you - don't toss aside someone just because you find out about his hairy testicles. There are prolly (you see, now ya'll have got ME saying that!) very many other GOOD points about him besides that!!!

Like a body that's pretty much "to die for", but I digress :wink:

So give the guy a chance!
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Postby RedMenace » Thu Oct 28, 2004 3:42 pm

I ammend my statement. Too smooth is too freaky.
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Postby Stryfe » Thu Oct 28, 2004 9:54 pm

definately...people without pubic hair look too pre-pubescent. eeks :shock:
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Postby Crowley_strokes » Thu Nov 04, 2004 3:54 pm

I've got more than a bit of a bear thing, but it's not restricted to hairy men; it's the masculinity that attracts. Especially laid-back masculine guys. Surfer types. With long hair. And sixpacks. And ice cream. Mmm...
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Postby Stryfe » Sat Nov 06, 2004 9:29 am

If anybody has a couple of minutes to read this nice commentary:

http://www.andrewsullivan.com/main_arti ... m=20030802

I think what he says is mostly true.
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Postby Stryfe » Sat Nov 06, 2004 9:40 am

from the article, cause it's sooo long

"But their masculinity is of a casual, unstrained type. One of the least reported but significant cultural shifts among gay men in recent years has been a greater ease with the notion of being men and a refusal to acquiesce in the notion that gayness is somehow in conflict with masculinity...Bears, to my mind, represent a welcome calming down of this trend. They are unabashedly masculine but undemonstrative about it. They are attractive precisely because they don't try so hard. And they add to their outdoorsy gruffness an appealing interior softness."

"they seem, on the whole, older and far more grown-up than their party-boy cousins. They eat and drink and joke and cuddle and stroke and generally have a great time. And their mellowness is wonderfully infectious."

"To the outside world, they are largely invisible, because they don't fit the obvious stereotype of gay men, the kind that is featured somewhat offensively on "Queer Eye For The Straight Guy." These bears look more like the straight guys than the queer eyes. "

"...is another manifestation of the growth and breadth of gay culture in the new millennium. As the gay world recovers from AIDS, and as the closet continues to collapse, the numbers of gay men keep growing and the diversity of what was once called the gay experience is exploding."
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Postby Thomsen » Sat Nov 06, 2004 2:52 pm

Interesting read but my problem with bears is the same as with goths in highschool or hippy kids in college. There seems somethign so superficial about creating your own little sub culture. Where is teh individuality anymore. I'm not saying everyoen is like that, but i mean if the first thing out of someones mouth is "GRRR I'm a bear." I have to wonder if there is much more there worth getting to know....
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Postby Jay » Sat Nov 06, 2004 2:59 pm

"bears" were always these beefy and VERY hairy guys. But nowadays, the "men" we see in gay porn are so feminine. There isn't a hair on them. They're all Chelsea New York queens.

Todays "bear" is yesterday's gay porn star. I'm not into "bears" per se. I just like MEN. And REAL men fall under today's definition of "bear."
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Postby dabonsteed » Mon Nov 08, 2004 10:18 pm

olywaguy wrote:I like a person for their natural self. If their natural self is hairy or smooth I am a happy men. But, if they shave all that beautiful hair that is kind of a turn-off to me.

I prefer a guy who is himself. Both the personality and the physical aspects of the guy is what attracts me to them. The complete package. So guys, don't go altering yourself to please someone. Just be yourself.

What if that person you want to please is yourself?

And just a general question.....Why is it that hair on the head can be shaved off, in a military buzz cut, or any kind of short haircut, generally, with this crowd ----but if you so much as tweeze one hair below the neck there's this idea of "that is not manly" or "just be yourself, don't try to impress anyone" or "Be proud of your natural hairiness" or "just be natural."

why is it that above the neck, generally it's all about having short, simple, noncomplicated haircuts but below the neck LET IT RIDE, RUN WILD, OH BABY is the order of the day?
Cause come on now, that's a double standard. What's wrong with letting the hair above ground go wild and long. That's natural. But I'm sure most of the guys on here would go "that's girly", "that makes you look like a girl" etc....
So apparently men are supposed to look natural by letting the jungle grow but trimming the treetops? What?! Huh?
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Postby Crowley_strokes » Tue Nov 09, 2004 12:58 pm

The short hair thing is part of the manliness factor; as 'real' men often have short hair whereas females more commonly have long hair, people who like straight-acting men often prefer them to have short hair. It's part of the straight stereotype, as is not shaving below the neck.
But personally, I agree with olywaguy; the image does play a big part, but the attitude plays just as big a one. If they guy's hot & cool, his hair length doesn't bother me that much. So long as it doesn't have ribbons in or something. To each his own.
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