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Advice needed on anal sex.

Postby Blade Runner » Thu Jun 09, 2011 4:01 pm

I've been a long time lurker of this forum and I've found that some members' views on various topics as pretty much identical to mine. :D This fact alone made me feel good about myself as I realized that there are other gay people out there who think alike and don't fit the stereotype of what a gay person should be and act like.

But enough with the prologue. Let's get straight to the point.

Being still a virgin myself ( :( ), I'd really appreciate if you guys could give me some advice on anal sex, like if it requires any preparation, if it's messy etc.
I've read and heard several contradictory stories on anal sex from people so I'd like to know what's true and what's not.
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Re: Advice needed on anal sex.

Postby David » Fri Jun 10, 2011 2:06 pm

Not to be a negative nancy, but....


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This hardly qualifies as a long time lurker. Good luck.
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Re: Advice needed on anal sex.

Postby nimby » Fri Jun 10, 2011 3:40 pm

Hello Blade runner and welcome.

If you use the search feature, you'll find that very topic covered on here elsewhere. Pretty much anything you can think of has been covered here, so happy searching and Welcome again. I lurked to for a while before I joined, so no worries. I asked the same question when I first got here and one guy said, "lube, lube and more lube. And go very slow at first.

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Re: Advice needed on anal sex.

Postby Blade Runner » Fri Jun 10, 2011 6:00 pm

David wrote:Not to be a negative nancy, but....


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This hardly qualifies as a long time lurker. Good luck.

By lurker, I mean that I was visiting the forum without being a registered member.

nimby wrote:Hello Blade runner and welcome.

If you use the search feature, you'll find that very topic covered on here elsewhere. Pretty much anything you can think of has been covered here, so happy searching and Welcome again. I lurked to for a while before I joined, so no worries. I asked the same question when I first got here and one guy said, "lube, lube and more lube. And go very slow at first.

Cheers,

Thanks mate. I'll try searching and see what I can find, though I tried searching before and didn't find anything relevant (my searching skills suck).

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Re: Advice needed on anal sex.

Postby doctor dan » Fri Jun 10, 2011 8:37 pm

David wrote:Not to be a negative nancy, but....


Could have been reading without registering, which one needs to do before posting. YMMV.
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Re: Advice needed on anal sex.

Postby Gaydudelaf » Fri Jun 10, 2011 9:28 pm

Whats going on dude that would make you ask this? Give us some background and some specific questions. For many of us its not a huge part of a relationship but for some it is. Are you looking for a perspective from a Top or Bottom?
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Re: Advice needed on anal sex.

Postby olywaguy » Fri Jun 10, 2011 10:51 pm

Blade Runner, what kind of stories have you heard? What specifically are you interested in learning?
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Re: Advice needed on anal sex.

Postby Blade Runner » Sat Jun 11, 2011 9:37 am

I'm particularly interested to know if preparation is needed before engaging on this activity from a bottom perspective (like getting clean etc).

Olywaguy, I've heard people saying that it's messy if you don't use enemas while others disagree.
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Re: Advice needed on anal sex.

Postby Davy » Thu Jun 23, 2011 12:36 am

Some tops prefer that you use an enema or even douche. And if you have any lingering insecurities about this, I would recommend it. Either way, make sure you always shower and clean down there before doing the deed. And if you at any point feel that you "have to go" before the event, do so!!! The consequences of not doing so can be embarassing, particularly if finger penetration is involved on the part of your partner. And if there is to be finger penetration, make sure his nails are trimmed!

Generally speaking, it's not messy. I'm going to say you should have a condom ready but that's a matter of personal preference. Aside from the obvious barrier to STDs, the condom protects the penis from the contents of the inside of your rectum. But again, it's up to you and your partner. Whatever you decide to do, remember that every part of your body (and his) is washable. Sheets are washable too if that becomes an issue (most likely it won't). If the worst does happen and a mess gets made, then just laugh it off and it will always be somewhat of an inside joke between you guys. It's sex. It's supposed to be fun.

That's the best advice I can offer.
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Re: Advice needed on anal sex.

Postby olywaguy » Thu Jun 23, 2011 9:11 am

Here is an article about anal sex that you might find useful.

Another article you will find useful.
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