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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby JakeMIke » Tue Oct 05, 2010 10:55 am

Thinking of you Chip, and keeping you and Dustin in my prayers.
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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby Marvinteck » Mon Nov 08, 2010 1:39 am

Unfortunately this is the thread that brought me to this site. Chip had posted a link on a suicide survivor forum to this thread. I found that site because I was contemplating suicide myself and was researching the aftermath effects on family and friends. Im glad I thought twice and came out of the closet instead of doing anything to extreme. While doing my research I was blown away by the pain and suffering inflicted on those left behind. My condolences go out to Chip as time heals his heart and he can close this chapter of his life.
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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby Gaydudelaf » Mon Nov 08, 2010 7:49 am

Dude! This Post blows me away! I am so glad you decided NOT to do that. In addition to my tremendous since of loss and longing for someone I will never see again, I am saddened several times a week be things that happen that Dustin would have enjoyed. The biggest example for me was the last episode of lost, or moving to a new city. If you ever need to talk please private me and we can exchange contact information. I am sure I am not alone in this offer! As far as closing this chapter in my life, I don't think i will ever be able to. Every night when go to bed, if I am not passing out, I see his lifeless body laying in our bed and wish he was there, alive, for me to hold one last time.

Marvinteck wrote:Unfortunately this is the thread that brought me to this site. Chip had posted a link on a suicide survivor forum to this thread. I found that site because I was contemplating suicide myself and was researching the aftermath effects on family and friends. Im glad I thought twice and came out of the closet instead of doing anything to extreme. While doing my research I was blown away by the pain and suffering inflicted on those left behind. My condolences go out to Chip as time heals his heart and he can close this chapter of his life.
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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby Marvinteck » Mon Nov 08, 2010 6:40 pm

Let me first say Im so sorry to hear of your loss. I read your story and it broke my heart along with the other storys I read on the other site. Nobody should have to go through that. I wish there was something I could say to you to make the pain go away and make you feel better but I know that would be impossible. As you saw on the other site you definitely arent alone in your struggles and just know Im thinking of you.

I would like to believe the worst part is over for me. I joined the other site back in early august poking around a bit reading storys. By late august and into early September things were looking pretty grim. In mid September I decided to reach out by coming out of the closet to my family and friends. The only reason I came out was I couldnt get any more isolated or distant from the people around me. I was completely honest with my family by telling them I was gay and how depressed I really was. Up till that point they had no idea something was wrong. Every body has been 100% supportive of me and I have an excellent support network in place. Things are slowly getting better as I adjust to the change and I get comfortable in my own body. Its been seven weeks since I came out and life is starting to look brighter as I look to the future. Its been a long and scary process but the worst is over for me. I still have some rough days but nothing like I was before I came out.

Gaydudelaf wrote:Dude! This Post blows me away! I am so glad you decided NOT to do that. In addition to my tremendous since of loss and longing for someone I will never see again, I am saddened several times a week be things that happen that Dustin would have enjoyed. The biggest example for me was the last episode of lost, or moving to a new city. If you ever need to talk please private me and we can exchange contact information. I am sure I am not alone in this offer! As far as closing this chapter in my life, I don't think i will ever be able to. Every night when go to bed, if I am not passing out, I see his lifeless body laying in our bed and wish he was there, alive, for me to hold one last time.
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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby Gaydudelaf » Mon Nov 08, 2010 9:53 pm

Marvinteck wrote:Let me first say Im so sorry to hear of your loss. I read your story and it broke my heart along with the other storys I read on the other site. Nobody should have to go through that. I wish there was something I could say to you to make the pain go away and make you feel better but I know that would be impossible. As you saw on the other site you definitely arent alone in your struggles and just know Im thinking of you.

I would like to believe the worst part is over for me. I joined the other site back in early august poking around a bit reading storys. By late august and into early September things were looking pretty grim. In mid September I decided to reach out by coming out of the closet to my family and friends. The only reason I came out was I couldnt get any more isolated or distant from the people around me. I was completely honest with my family by telling them I was gay and how depressed I really was. Up till that point they had no idea something was wrong. Every body has been 100% supportive of me and I have an excellent support network in place. Things are slowly getting better as I adjust to the change and I get comfortable in my own body. Its been seven weeks since I came out and life is starting to look brighter as I look to the future. Its been a long and scary process but the worst is over for me. I still have some rough days but nothing like I was before I came out.


Man, I am happy to hear coming out has worked out for you. I know its a mind fu*k and reaches the very lowest levels of your mind. I am very lucky to have a great family as well. They really rallied around me and were there to help me past this bump in the road. I am a very independent person but honestly, I was pretty much a basket case after this happened. I didn't realize how bad I was when I was going through it but now that I look back on it I was a total scatter brain. I also found out who my friends were.

This month is going to be touch because his birthday is next weekend and that is when we used to set the Christmas tree up. He made the most elaborate Thanksgiving Dinners. I think this holiday season will be my last major hurdle. Things are looking up for me and I am getting on with my life.

The guys on this board were there for me when I came out in 2003, came out to my family in 2005, and when I lost my husband. If you are ever near one of the SA.com get togethers you should try to make it. This is really a hell of a bunch of guys and I feel very lucky to know them. I would love to meet you too some time!

Thanks for reaching out to me.
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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby nimby » Thu Nov 11, 2010 12:59 pm

What a cool exchange. I'm so humbled, yet warm and gushy inside. :)
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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby Gaydudelaf » Thu Nov 11, 2010 10:26 pm

nimby wrote:What a cool exchange. I'm so humbled, yet warm and gushy inside. :)


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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby olywaguy » Sat Nov 20, 2010 4:47 pm

I know today is Dustin's birthday, so big hugs to you today, Chip.

Love ya buddy.
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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby nimby » Sat Nov 20, 2010 7:24 pm

And a big hug right back at you Chip.
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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby Donovan » Mon Dec 06, 2010 2:49 am

Wow, I was away for a while, and then when I came back, this is the first thread I saw :shock:
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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby J » Wed Dec 22, 2010 4:15 am

To be honest, I don't think there is a "last" major hurdle, but if there is a last tough date to pass, it's the one year anniversary of the event.

I still wish I was able to get out there last spring if nothing else than to hug you for 10 or 20 minutes and be there for anything you needed, talk, vent, whatever, but like always, the damn money thing ruined it.
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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby Gaydudelaf » Thu Dec 23, 2010 9:51 pm

J wrote:To be honest, I don't think there is a "last" major hurdle, but if there is a last tough date to pass, it's the one year anniversary of the event.

I still wish I was able to get out there last spring if nothing else than to hug you for 10 or 20 minutes and be there for anything you needed, talk, vent, whatever, but like always, the damn money thing ruined it.


Maybe we can pitch in and fly you out here to visit some time
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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby mrmikojay » Sun Jan 09, 2011 9:44 pm

Chip,

I am so sorry to read this. I have been away from the board for quite awhile (and needed to create a new login), and saw this. My heart froze. You gave me some advice many years ago, which has brought me through the end of an 18 year marriage.

I am falling back on the faith of my fathers when I say: May He rest in peace, and let perpetual light shine upon Him.

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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby Gaydudelaf » Tue Jan 11, 2011 12:06 am

Thanks a million Mike! I am sorry we had to re-unite on this note! I hope is all going well for you!
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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby Beaupedia » Sun Sep 18, 2011 4:00 am

Walking for Dustin later today. Just thought I'd share.

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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby nimby » Sun Sep 18, 2011 5:52 pm

What a great organization. Good luck, Beau.
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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby Guinness Fan » Mon May 07, 2012 3:08 pm

Two years on...Lest We Forget...Rest in peace.
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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby nimby » Mon May 07, 2012 3:48 pm

Absolutely. I think of Dustin and Chip almost daily with a heavy heart.
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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby Gaydudelaf » Tue Jul 17, 2012 1:06 am

Thanks Nimby and Guinness (and for that matter everyone else who helped me through the hardest time in my life). I am in a good place now and have been for about a year. I could not have made it here without my supportive family and you guys! YOUR ALL AWESOME!
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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby DeckApe » Tue Jul 17, 2012 7:38 am

Hi Chip! Good to see your smiling face and hear that things are going well for you.
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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby Gaydudelaf » Thu Jul 26, 2012 10:27 pm

Thanks man! We are way past due for an SA.com get together! I would love to see everyone!
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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby nimby » Fri Jul 27, 2012 12:37 pm

May I suggest Niagara Falls for the next get together? Lots to do and centrally located. :D Just suggesting...
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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby Gaydudelaf » Sat Jul 28, 2012 1:54 am

nimby wrote:May I suggest Niagara Falls for the next get together? Lots to do and centrally located. :D Just suggesting...


That would be cool. Naturally as a gay man I prefer the Canadian side, but can my boyfriend, a Mexican National get a visa?
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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby Lesley R. Charles » Sat Jul 28, 2012 11:38 am

I am glad that you are doing better Chip. It is still hard to believe that Dustin is gone and even harder to believe two years have gone by.
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Re: Dustin Council (1984-2010)

Postby Gaydudelaf » Sat Jul 28, 2012 1:28 pm

Lesley R. Charles wrote:I am glad that you are doing better Chip. It is still hard to believe that Dustin is gone and even harder to believe two years have gone by.

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Yup! Life has a way of continuing. :P
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