Will you ever come out?

Was it tough or was it easy, or are you still locked in? Tell the world anonymously about your gayness should you choose.

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Will you ever come out?

Yes
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24%
No. I'll stay closeted forever.
11
10%
I'm already out.
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42%
I don't know.
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25%
 
Total votes : 110

Re: Will you ever come out?

Postby ispeaktexan » Fri Jul 10, 2009 3:45 pm

very cool! canada sounds awesome.

damn texas it can burn. literally its that hot:/
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Re: Will you ever come out?

Postby jkav » Fri Jul 17, 2009 12:01 am

Tracked down my dad. He's coming to see me on Saturday, and it's going to happen. After Saturday, we'll be done with coming out to the family.
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Re: Will you ever come out?

Postby ispeaktexan » Fri Jul 17, 2009 12:13 am

We'll?

Well i hope that goes well...
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Re: Will you ever come out?

Postby LtotheP » Fri Jul 17, 2009 12:31 am

jkav wrote:Tracked down my dad. He's coming to see me on Saturday, and it's going to happen. After Saturday, we'll be done with coming out to the family.


best of luck
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Re: Will you ever come out?

Postby foxeyes2 » Fri Jul 17, 2009 12:12 pm

Wishing you the best and know that no matter what he says, no matter what his reaction may be, you are how you were created to be.
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Re: Will you ever come out?

Postby chidiver » Fri Jul 17, 2009 1:39 pm

Good job tracking him down. Good luck with everything!
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Re: Will you ever come out?

Postby nimby » Fri Jul 17, 2009 4:35 pm

jkav wrote:Tracked down my dad. He's coming to see me on Saturday, and it's going to happen. After Saturday, we'll be done with coming out to the family.

Best of luck. Hope all goes as well as you plan.
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Re: Will you ever come out?

Postby DeckApe » Fri Jul 17, 2009 7:12 pm

Best of luck Jay!
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Re: Will you ever come out?

Postby Daknee » Sat Jul 18, 2009 9:30 am

jkav wrote:Tracked down my dad. He's coming to see me on Saturday, and it's going to happen. After Saturday, we'll be done with coming out to the family.



I support your decision. I send you positive energy for the best outcome with your coming out to your dad and family.
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Re: Will you ever come out?

Postby jkav » Sun Jul 19, 2009 10:43 pm

jkav wrote:Tracked down my dad. He's coming to see me on Saturday, and it's going to happen. After Saturday, we'll be done with coming out to the family.


Well, I did it. I had hoped for better, but I was prepared for exactly what happened. It could have been a lot worse.

Now that I've had a day to sort it out, I feel mostly relief... and that's an alright place to be.
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Re: Will you ever come out?

Postby nimby » Sun Jul 19, 2009 10:47 pm

Just take a deep breath, relax and be proud of yourself. You did a very brave thing. Congradulations.
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Re: Will you ever come out?

Postby jkav » Sun Jul 19, 2009 10:48 pm

jkav wrote:Now that I've had a day to sort it out, I feel mostly relief... and that's an alright place to be.


I sound like a gay Rolaids commercial.
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Re: Will you ever come out?

Postby ispeaktexan » Sun Jul 19, 2009 11:18 pm

Good job!

I know its hard...and will be hard for me. I kind of want to get away without doing it, but i don't think it works that way.
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Re: Will you ever come out?

Postby Schlodesss » Fri Jul 31, 2009 4:15 am

Came out to my dirt bike riding buddy.. He had been asking where my girlfriend Cathy has been lately, and she and I are just friends, she is lesbian. Anyway her and I no longer talk. So.. I decided to take the chance and tell him. I was worried that would be it, as they go to church every Sunday etc... To my surprise he was totally fine, and told me his daughter was Bi, but he suspects she is mostly lesbian and just not 100 % ready to deal..
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Re: Will you ever come out?

Postby nimby » Fri Jul 31, 2009 9:26 am

Wow! Good job. It just goes to show you never know where people are in their views. If more "regular" guys come out and show that it's nothing to fear, the battle will be won. I might do the same tonight to a very good friend. :shock:
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Re: Will you ever come out?

Postby ispeaktexan » Fri Jul 31, 2009 10:31 am

Good job!
Wow what's with all these parents being comfortable with their childrens sexuality?
They even throw some kids coming out parties.

Geez. Odd.
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Re: Will you ever come out?

Postby Daknee » Fri Jul 31, 2009 10:51 am

ispeaktexan wrote:Good job!
Wow what's with all these parents being comfortable with their childrens sexuality?
They even throw some kids coming out parties.

Geez. Odd.

Hey Tex, Coming out parties? I never heard of that before :shock: Good for them however.
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Re: Will you ever come out?

Postby ispeaktexan » Fri Jul 31, 2009 11:10 am

Yeah, don't know anybody that has had them but i read about them somewhere online.

But yes good for them.
I wouldn't wanna have a party for that reason...feel weird. Ha.
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Re: Will you ever come out?

Postby glas_scot » Fri Jul 31, 2009 2:45 pm

I was planning on coming out to a close friend last night but somehow ended up having a huge argument with him. We were in a pub with a group of mates having a great time, then when it was time to leave he began ranting on about something. When I tried to calm him down and see what was wrong, he turned on me . I ended up arguing back and we both said things we didn't mean (though the things he said we 10x worse than anything I said, I'm a lover not a hater!). In the 8 years I've known him we've NEVER had an argument before. Now thinking about it, I've never had an argument like this with anyone.

I'm really glad I did not say anything as I'm sure he would have used this as ammo. He did send me a text earlier apologising and wants to explain what happened last night in person.

I have some thinking to do.
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Re: Will you ever come out?

Postby ispeaktexan » Fri Jul 31, 2009 3:25 pm

hmm well let him explain maybe he has a good reason i know ive done things i didnt mean..and said things i didnt mean either. but id watch it...don't tell him unless you're sure it wont cause conflict.
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Re: Will you ever come out?

Postby nimby » Fri Jul 31, 2009 8:39 pm

Yea Steve, just hear him out. We've all said things in the heat of passion that we don't mean. Don't throw away an 8 year friendship over something like that. Be the bigger man (you're Scottish, right?), yea, be the bigger man. LOL!!

As for me coming out to my friend? She wouldn't shut up long enough for me to get a word in edgewise, so I gave up. :roll:
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Re: Will you ever come out?

Postby ispeaktexan » Fri Jul 31, 2009 11:50 pm

Ah that's funny.
Tonight?
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Re:

Postby tomthumb » Tue Sep 22, 2009 12:02 pm

cass34 wrote:I've been coming out to friends over the past few weeks. Everyone has taken it well except one who sent me an email with links to "Exodus International". I told him not to waste his time and try to accept my decision.

As for the family, I'm preparing. I actually dreamt last night that I came out to my mom and one sister and my mom said she knew since I was 4 years old. Wow!!! If only it goes that well in real life


I day dream a lot about coming out to my mom and what it'd be like. I don't feel repressed in not telling family -so for now I won't- but it does create an exciting fascination imagining everyone-starting with my mom- find out that I'm a homosexual (a fairly safe bet anyway).
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