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Browsing Craigslist...

Postby nimby » Fri Jun 12, 2009 4:35 pm

I havn't been on craigslist for ages, so today I thought I'd browse the personals. And I am shocked at the number of "straight" guys looking for gay hook ups.

WTF ? Is this the pandemic everyone is talking about? Are all these ads legit? What do you think?

How many of these ads on Craigslist are for real? How many actually describe themselves truthfully? What's been the general experience?
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Postby Odeh » Fri Jun 12, 2009 8:33 pm

I think there are many guys who like guys who are NOT part of the gay
subculture...They are guys who just like guys without going into the gay
subcultural baggage...

They might fit in socially with regular mainstream guys in terms of likes and
interests with the exception of women..

But then you have to be careful as they could be anybody posting anything.
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Postby Odeh » Fri Jun 12, 2009 8:35 pm

I also think Kinsey had it right...sexuality is gray scale not either/or...
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Postby Dago » Sat Jun 13, 2009 7:46 pm

Its called denial. "I like dick but I'm not gay."
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Postby nimby » Sat Jun 13, 2009 8:26 pm

Dago wrote:Its called denial. "I like dick but I'm not gay."


So are you saying that all gay men (or bi for that matter) MUST be apart of the gay scene or they're not valid?
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Postby furface » Sat Jun 13, 2009 9:56 pm

Not at all. However; it seems highly suspect for a man to prowl the M2M listings on any site and continue to define himself as neither not gay nor bi. Ya don't have to be part of the gay scene to identify as gay; it's just not a requirement and actually never was.
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Postby madsglen » Sun Jun 14, 2009 1:20 am

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Postby Odeh » Wed Jun 24, 2009 8:36 pm

I think what you are dealing with here is how people self-identify..For
example I think the guys in "Brokeback Mountain" would never have
identified themselves as "gay"...

And the North American binary cultural tendency to label people
either/ or...I think sexuality is in shades of gray like Kinsey stated..

Why can't a person be part gay or part straight??? if you are going to
define these terms to mean sexual orientation...

Why are women allowed to get away with sexual experimentation
WITHOUT their sexual orientation being called into question??

This is a double-standard against males.. Why can't a guy say
"I am "gay" with some friends and some I am not "gay" with??

Everything in this culture is based on a heterosexual relationship model
even "gay" relationships..when it comes to sexual/romantic involvement
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Postby Earl Butz » Thu Jun 25, 2009 4:31 am

North Americans sure suck. I think Saudi Arabia has it right. Death penalty for homosexuality. :roll:
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Postby Odeh » Thu Jun 25, 2009 9:39 pm

....Then every male is Saudi Arabia would be executed then... :shock
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Postby chidiver » Thu Jun 25, 2009 10:09 pm

Odeh wrote:....Then every male is Saudi Arabia would be executed then... :shock


No, just most of them. Seriously, Saudi has a flourishing gay underground.
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Postby batty » Fri Jun 26, 2009 12:23 am

chidiver wrote:
Odeh wrote:....Then every male is Saudi Arabia would be executed then... :shock


No, just most of them. Seriously, Saudi has a flourishing gay underground.


Mind you, those who are rich enough need not go underground. They fly their private aircraft to Europe (especially LBG, a former private F/A told me) for the weekend, f*ck their brains out and fly home. Nevermind outsourcing jobs abroad, these guys outsource homosexuality! I guess you're not really gay is you give head outside the Kingdom :roll:
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Postby jkav » Fri Jun 26, 2009 7:24 am

batty wrote:I guess you're not really gay if you give head outside the Kingdom :roll:


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Postby nimby » Fri Jun 26, 2009 8:53 am

madsglen wrote:Junk science? Illuminating? Waste of a web page?



Very illuminating. Thank you. One question though. Why would you even suggest that the story is "Junk science" or a "Waste of a web page"? Are their/our feelings and/or reasons not as valid as some one who is 100% gay or 100% straight? I don't undarstand, so please help me out. Is Psychology today not a valid enough source? Why not?

See, you almost made ME feel invalid. Almost. But you didn't :D .

I'm so glad that more and more research on the topic is being done, and slowly, homosexuals are understanding that Bis are not confused, lying to themselves, or in denial. WE are people too with an alternate lifestyle that is slowly gaining acceptance, just like homosexuality is. Just please remember, not everything is black or white. All you gotta do is scratch the surface a bit and we learn that most things come in a lovely shade of grey.

And the more we learn, the better people we become.

Cheers, and, no, no offense taken.
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Postby PhillyAgenda » Fri Jun 26, 2009 1:38 pm

I'm sure you have quite a few ads put up on craigslist that fake and/or they have no intention of actually following through.
furface wrote:Not at all. However; it seems highly suspect for a man to prowl the M2M listings on any site and continue to define himself as neither not gay nor bi. Ya don't have to be part of the gay scene to identify as gay; it's just not a requirement and actually never was.

Or to take it a step further. I chatted with this guy online a while ago, and we decided to get together. Well it got sexual. And almost immediately after he insisted to me that he was sure he wasn't gay and probably not even bi.

I guess there might be something to this self-identification thing. If the guy has this perception of what "being gay" is (a perception that a lot of heterosexuals seem to still have) then he most likely wouldn't consider himself gay, no matter how many times he has sex with men.
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Postby nimby » Fri Jun 26, 2009 4:25 pm

So, let me tell you...

Instead of me trolling craigslist ads, I set up my own and let them come to me. WOW!!! Hits-a-plenty. Apparently a married bi-guy is quite a commodity :lol: . But if they're looking for quick hook ups, they got another thing comming. I'll keep ya'll informed.
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Postby Odeh » Fri Jun 26, 2009 9:16 pm

I think the terms "gay" and "straight" in terms of world history are
very recent and American...A lot of these ideas came from the group
identity politics of the '60s...in the United States..

In ancient Rome there was no concept of "gay" or "straight" the society
was what we would "bi" in modern American terms..

These concepts only apply to the recent modern West...I wonder what
someone in 1750 who liked guys would label his romantic other..a deep dear friend perhaps???

Maybe these labels were good to use at one time but maybe they have
out served their usefulness...

If people "liked" each other in ancient times would they go on a date,
get engaged and marry in the modern American sense??
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Postby Odeh » Fri Jun 26, 2009 9:19 pm

As far as Craig's List they could be anybody posting anything..
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Postby olywaguy » Fri Jun 26, 2009 10:17 pm

The Oxford English Dictionary is a great source concerning the etymology of English words. Here are all uses of the word gay throughout time

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A. adj.

1. Noble; beautiful; excellent, fine.

{dag}a. Chiefly poet. As a conventional epithet of praise for a woman. Cf. FREE adj. 3. Obs.
c1325 in G. L. Brook Harley Lyrics (1968) 49 Heo is..graciouse, stout, ant gay, gentil, iolyf so {th}e iay. a1375 William of Palerne 816 Whan {th}e gaye gerles were in-to {th}e gardin come, Faire floures {th}ei founde of fele maner hewes. c1400 (?c1390) Sir Gawain & Green Knight (1940) l. 1003 Gawan & {th}e gay burde, to-geder {th}ay seten. 1562 E. LEWICKE tr. Boccaccio Titus & Gisippus sig. B.v, It is (I wyll it not denay) Sophronia the lady gay, Whom Gisippus had chose to wife. 1599 SHAKESPEARE Pilgr. 225 The learned man hath got the lady gay. a1600 T. DELONEY Pleasant Hist. John Winchcomb (1619) sig. E2v, That day made many a fatherlesse child, and many a widow poore: And many a Scottish gay Lady, sate weeping in her bowre. 1658 T. BANCROFT Heroical Lover ii. 16 Some Rusticks..Bluntly inform'd him that a Lady gay, Who in that region bare a Queen-like sway..Did adde much sweetness to their flowery Plains. 1736 S. WESLEY Poems Several Occasions 215 Our Landlord has, they say, Long woo'd, and lately wed a Lady gay. 1802 Prince Robert in Scott Minstrelsy Sc. Border II. 124 Prince Robert has wedded a gay ladye, He has wedded her with a ring.

b. More generally. regional in later use.
{dag}to have a gay mind: ‘to have a good mind’, to be very much inclined (obs. rare).
a1375 William of Palerne 1595 Swi{th}e sent he sondes to somoun..alle {th}e grete of grece and o{th}er gaie pepul. c1450 Alphabet of Tales (1904) I. 168 {Th}is lorde had also a gay falcon & a swyfte. 1488 (c1478) HARY Actis & Deidis Schir William Wallace (Adv.) IX. l. 178 A gud gay wynd out off the rycht art com. 1533 J. BELLENDEN tr. Livy Hist. Rome (1822) II. vii. 127 Becaus vertew wes honorit in this wise, it gaif occasioun to wemen to do gay vassalege. 1540 R. HYRDE tr. J. L. Vives Instr. Christen Woman (1592) N v, But looke in the same booke, how goodly and gay is the prais of a good woman. 1550 H. LATIMER Last Serm. before Edward VI (1562) 125 The concord of brethren, & agreeing of brethren is a gay thing. 1551 T. WILSON Rule of Reason sig. Dviijv, People whiche haue muche dispraised all temporal lawes..thinkynge it mete that al common weales should onlye haue the gospell, and none other lawe at all. This maye seme to some a gaie saienge, where as in dede it is bothe folishe, and wicked. 1557 POLE in Strype Eccl. Mem. III. App. lxviii. 238 Yf you..had suche a gay mynde to restore the ruynes of the Chyrches. 1573 T. TUSSER Fiue Hundreth Points Good Husb. (new ed.) f. 34, The labor is little, the profit is gaye. 1577 W. HARRISON Descr. Eng. (1877) Ded. I. p. cix, And thus with hope of good although no gaie successe. 1593 Tell-Troth's N.Y. Gift 38 It is a gay thing to come to dignity. 1611 J. SPEED Hist. Great Brit. IX. xviii. 704/2 Here is a gay goodly cast [of dice], foule cast away for hast.
1863 G. W. WHITMAN in Civil War Lett. 89, I have a bran new tent and when I get it fixed up to suit me, it will be just gay. 1877 E. PEACOCK Gloss. Words Manley & Corringham, Lincs. (at cited word), This raäin'll mak' tonups look gaay. Them's a gaay lot o' hogs o' yours. 1894 ‘M. TWAIN’ in Cent. Mag. Feb. 553 My business and your law practice ought to make a pretty gay team, Dave. 1904 J. C. LINCOLN Cap'n Eri viii. 132 Ain't this gay? Look at them eggs; b'iled jest to a T. 1932 ‘L. G. GIBBON’ Sunset Song 20 Ellison had begun to think himself a gey man in Kinraddie.

c. ironically. Sc. in later use.
1581 J. BELL tr. W. Haddon & J. Foxe Against Jerome Osorius 11 b, O gay payre of Byshops, which are so intangled in two examples onely, that [etc.]. 1582 G. MARTIN Discov. Corrupt. Script. vii. 120 If these later Rabbines be the Hebreues that Beza meaneth, and which these gay English translatours follow.
1871 W. ALEXANDER Johnny Gibb iii, Aye, aye! Ye're a gey boy comin' to yer bed at three o'clock i' the mornin'. 1929 E. LINKLATER White-Maa's Saga 122 His grandfather was a gey man for the women. 1990 S. ROBERTSON Fish-Hooses (1992) 48 Salty, the gey lad that he wis, told Peggy that he wis gan tae mairry her before Michaelmas.

2. a. Bright or lively-looking, esp. in colour; brilliant, showy.
a1375 William of Palerne 1936 No man..schuld now deuise men richlier a-raid..to richesse {th}at {th}ei hadde; {th}e grete after here degre in {th}e gaiest wise & menere men as {th}ei mi{ygh}t. c1380 Sir Firumbras (1879) 1694 Oppon {th}e tour..{th}ar stonde{th} a iuwel gay, An egle of gold {th}at schyna{th} bri{ygh}t so do{th} {th}e sonne on may. ?a1400 (a1338) R. MANNYNG Chron. (Petyt 511) II. 169 {Th}ei sauh fer in {th}e se A grete busse & gay; fulle hie of saile was he. c1400 (?c1380) Pearl 260 In {th}is gardyn gracios gaye. c1405 (c1387-95) CHAUCER Canterbury Tales Prol. (Hengwrt) l. 111 Vpon his arm he bar a gay bracer. c1420 Sir Amadace (Camden) lvi, He come in als gay gere, Ry{ygh}te as he an angelle were. a1425 (?a1300) King Alexander (Linc. Inn) 3185 Muche bost was {th}are, Gret pruyde and gay gere. 1463 in S. Tymms Wills & Inventories Bury St. Edmunds (1850) 41 My best gay cuppe of erthe. ?1507 W. DUNBAR Tua Mariit Wemen (Rouen) in Poems (1998) 50 He grathit me in a gay silk and gudly arrayis. 1539 Will of Robert Aslyn (P.R.O.: PROB. 11/27) f. 235, My gaye potte of glasse. 1573 G. HARVEY Let.-bk. (1884) 6 His oun gai gallant gaskins do and wil descri it sufficiently. 1638 F. DU JON Painting of Ancients 285 Too much cheerefulnesse of gay and flourishing colours. 1650 J. BULWER Anthropometamorphosis 260 The Brama's, who delight in such Gay-bables. 1717 LADY M. W. MONTAGU Let. 1 Apr. (1965) I. 311 The perpetual Spring..makes every thing look gay and flourishing. 1797 A. RADCLIFFE Italian I. i. 7 In every gay carriage that passed, he hoped to see the object of his constant thought. 1834 E. BULWER-LYTTON Last Days of Pompeii I. ii, They were now in that quarter which was filled with the gayest shops. 1842 E. MIALL in Nonconf. 2 1 The civil magistrate, dressed in his gayest, approached the altar. 1860 G. W. S. PIESSE Lab. Chem. Wonders (1869) 131 The Collinsia verna, a gay, dark purple flower. 1870 E. PEACOCK Ralf Skirlaugh III. 233 Their costumes were gay with ribbons. 1922 P. G. WODEHOUSE Adventures of Sally 25 Their female friends and relatives clustered in groups under gay parasols. 1974 Sunday Gleaner (Kingston, Jamaica) 25 Aug. (Mag. section) 3/3 (caption) Denim goes gay{em}A boldly embroidered blue denim skirt. 1990 ‘J. KINCAID’ Lucy 5, I got up and put on a dress, a gay dress made out of madras cloth.

b. Finely or showily dressed. Now rare.
a1387 J. TREVISA tr. R. Higden Polychron. (St. John's Cambr.) IV. 241 Cleopatra made here gay. c1430 (c1380) CHAUCER Parl. Fowls 234 Some ther weere Fayre of hemself, and some of hem were gay. c1450 (?a1400) Parl. Thre Ages (BL Add. 31042) 615 Amadase and Edoyne..in golde and in grene were gaye in thaire tyme. 1509 A. BARCLAY tr. S. Brant Shyp of Folys f. xl, Wymen..sell theyr soules and bodyes to go gay. 1572 Taill of Rauf Coil{ygh}ear 484 He is the gayest in geir, that euer on ground glaid. 1611 Bible (A.V.) Baruch vi. 9 And taking golde, as it were for a virgine that loues to go gay, they make crownes for the heads of their gods. a1616 SHAKESPEARE Othello (1622) II. i. 153 She that..Neuer lackt gold, and yet went neuer gay. 1766 C. ANSTEY New Bath Guide XI. vi. 78 Who is that Bombazine Lady so gay, So profuse of her Beauties, in sable Array? 1801 J. STRUTT Glig-gamena Angel-{edh}eod I. i. 7 The king was desirous of knowing the name of this gay gentleman. 1812 J. WILSON Isle of Palms III. 600 Vaunt not, gay bird! thy gorgeous plume. 1859 TENNYSON Enid in Idylls 15 The armourer..seeing one so gay in purple silks. 1924 Cape Argus 3 Jan. 8 The quiet streets of Cape Town were enlivened by the marching of troupes of coloured youths, gay in coon costumes. 1932 Men's Dress Reform Party No. 23 3/1 Mr. Ernest Thesiger pleaded for colour and self-expression... ‘Let us go gay,’ he pleaded.

3. a. Of persons, their attributes, actions, etc.: light-hearted, carefree; manifesting, characterized by, or disposed to joy and mirth; exuberantly cheerful, merry; sportive. Also in extended use.
c1400 (?c1380) Cleanness 830 {Th}enne seten {th}ay at {th}e soper..{Th}e gestes gay and ful glad, of glam debonere. a1425 (c1385) CHAUCER Troilus & Criseyde (1987) II. l. 922 A lay Of love..made hire herte fressh and gay. a1450 York Plays 265 Boy, be not agaste if we seme gaye. ?1515 A. BARCLAY Egloges III. sig. Nij, Makynge the tapster, comyth gay & feat. 1706 G. STANHOPE Paraphr. III. 367 That gay insulting Man was particularly careful to distinguish himself from his poor dejected Companion. 1744 J. THOMSON Autumn in Seasons (new ed.) 162 Quick, As is the Wit it gives, the gay Champaign. 1785 W. COWPER Task I. 493 Whom call we gay? The lark is gay. 1812 J. WILSON Isle of Palms I. 58 Smiles wander o'er thy placid face As if thy dreams were gay. 1814 WORDSWORTH Excursion III. 118 The choir Of gay companions. 1843 E. BULWER-LYTTON Last of Barons I. I. i. 6 Edward..[was] the handsomest, the gayest, and the bravest prince in Christendom. 1849 MACAULAY Hist. Eng. I. iv. 431 He made an effort to converse with them in his usual gay style. 1882 Cent. Mag. Feb. 590/1 The Canadians began to play and sing those gay, gay airs of old France. 1913 Sat. Evening Post 22 Feb. 14/2 All of a sudden I felt chipper and gay. I no longer gave a hoot for any one. 1938 R. K. NARAYAN Dark Room iv. 32 He expressed his gay mood by tying a preposterous turban round his head. 1972 Biogr. Mem. Fellows Royal Soc. 18 550 The conversation on such occasions was always gay, but students often found themselves picking up useful information about the wider scientific world. 2003 Village Voice (N.Y.) 22-28 Oct. 52/4 ‘There's no prizes for being happy and gay in a noir movie{em}that's failure,’ [Jane] Campion says with a shake of the head.

b. Of a horse: lively, prancing. rare.
1590 SPENSER Faerie Queene II. I. sig. N6, The gentlest knight, that euer on greene gras Gay steed with spurs did pricke, the good Sir Mortdant was. 1642 J. ROW Red-Shankes Serm. sig. A3v, The poore Post man must first venture over upon his little Nag, to see whether it be deepe or no, and then the Laird comes mounted on his gay steed and he passes over. 1822 Times 6 Feb. 4/4 (advt.) A bright bay horse..now too gay for single harness, which is the true reason of his being to be sold. 1827 B. DISRAELI Vivian Grey IV. VI. ii. 65 As spruce a cavalier as ever pricked gay steed on the pliant grass. 1891 W. CORY Ionica (rev. ed.) 160 So speed, gay steed, that I may see Dear Euphrasie, dear Eulalie. 1929 D. H. LAWRENCE Pansies 36 Horse, gay horses, swirling round and plaiting in a long line, their heads laid over each other's necks.

c. the gay science n. the art of poetry. Now rare.
1693 T. RYMER Short View Trag. sig. Fv, This King, Richard Ceur de lion, and his Brother Jeffrey had formerly liv'd much..in and about Provence, so came to take delight in their Language, their Poetry (then call'd the Gay Science) and their Poets. 1715 S. LEWIS tr. P.-D. Huet Hist. Romances 110 'Tis certain that the Arabians were extremely addicted..to the Gay Science, I mean, Poesy, Fable, and Fiction. 1813 W. TAYLOR in Monthly Rev. 70 455 So little of an heroic or tragic cast had their effusions, that they termed poetry the gay science. 1855 H. H. MILMAN Hist. Lat. Christianity IV. 313 Not forbidding himself those amorous indulgences which were the reward of chivalrous valour, and of the ‘gay science’. 1997 19th Cent. Lit. 52 336 The poet's..punning use of ‘gay’, which juxtaposes its suggestions of poetry as the gay science with its more usual meaning of joyful or perhaps even wanton.

d. With implied sense of depreciation: offhand, airy. Now rare.
1703 S. F. EGERTON Poems Several Occasions 55 In distant Shades contending Months I past, Thought I could see the Youth at my return, With gay Indifference and Unconcern. 1781 JOHNSON Pope in Pref. Wks. Eng. Poets VII. 49 Fenton..made him a gay offer of five pounds. 1811 J. AUSTEN Sense & Sensibility III. v. 101 Elinor was left to improve her acquaintance with Robert, who, by the gay unconcern, the happy self-complacency of his manner..was confirming her most unfavourable opinion of his head and heart. 1866 B. TAYLOR Story of Kennett xi. 114 Little by little, a serious liking for her friend was sending its roots down through the gay indifference of his surface mood. a1938 T. WOLFE You can't go Home Again (1940) I. i. 9 The gay insouciance of her unmannered settings.

e. (with) gay abandon: (in) a carefree or expansive manner; (with) lack of consideration for the consequences of an action.
1842 New World 18 June 393/3 The combination of refined enjoyment, and gay abandon, which throws such a charm over the audience. 1910 P. MACKAYE Garland to Sylvia II. i. 72 At the end, Sylvia with her arm about Hikrion dances out, right, with graceful, gay abandon, followed by the others. 1925 H. W. BRECHT in B. C. Williams O. Henry Prize Stories of 1925 (1926) 143 Very vivid in his mind still was the gay abandon of those afternoons. 1943 S. A. BROWN et al. Negro Caravan iii. 281 The gay abandon of cabarets, the weary blues of a wandering piano plunker. 1977 Arab Times 14 Dec. 10/3 Jumpers threw themselves at the bar with gay abandon without the slightest modicum of lift at take-off. 1998 Artist Mar. 45/2 It can do neither your painting style nor yourself any harm to swing a paintbrush with gay abandon{em}just watch out for the wallpaper! 2003 Daily Tel. 20 Feb. 22/2 She was dancing about with gay abandon, and smoking a spliff.

f. Of a dog's tail: carried high or erect. Also of the manner in which a tail is carried. Cf. GAILY adv. 1c.
1894 R. B. LEE Hist. & Descr. Mod. Dogs: Non-sporting Div. ix. 239 The tail..should be incapable of being raised above the level of the backbone, which is called a ‘gay’ carriage. 1927 W. H. DOWLING in C. C. Sanderson Pedigree Dogs 334 Tail.{em}Should be carried proudly, curved or plumed in a tight curl over and close to the back (never gay as in a ‘Peke’). 1935 Times 20 May 20/6 It is supposed..that the tails of some fox terriers are operated upon to remedy the grave defect of too gay a carriage. 1952 C. L. B. HUBBARD Pembrokeshire Corgi Handbk. 111 Gay tail, one which from root to tip is carried over the horizontal. 2002 J. CUNLIFFE Encycl. Dog Breeds 38/3 A gay tail is carried higher than the horizontal line of the back and is considered a fault in many, indicating that it is being carried much higher than it should be, usually while the dog is on the move.

4. {dag}a. Wanton, lewd, lascivious. Obs.
c1405 (c1390) CHAUCER Miller's Tale (Hengwrt) l. 3769 Som gay gerl..Hath broght yow thus vp on the viritoot. a1425 Medulla Gram. (Stonyhurst) f. 26, Laciuus: gay. a1450 Castle Perseverance 1163 {Th}anne mayst {th}ou..serdyn gay gerlys.

b. Originally of persons and later also more widely: dedicated to social pleasures; dissolute, promiscuous; frivolous, hedonistic. Also (esp. in to go gay): uninhibited; wild, crazy; flamboyant. Cf. Gay Nineties n. at Special uses 2a. Now rare.
See also gay dog n. at Special uses 2a. gay Lothario: see LOTHARIO n.
1597 J. PAYNE Royall Exch. 27 Sum gay professors (kepinge secret minions) do love there wyues..to avoyde shame. 1624 P. MASSINGER Bond-man V. iii. sig. L3, Then I dare rise vp And tell this gay man to his teeth, I neuer Durst doubt her constancie. 1637 J. SHIRLEY Lady of Pleasure v. K 1 b, Lord. You'le not be angry, Madam. Cel. Nor rude, though gay men have a priviledge. 1700 T. BROWN Amusem. Serious & Comical x. 130 Every Dunce of a Quack, is call'd a Physician..Every Gay thing, a Chevalier. 1703 N. ROWE Fair Penitent V. i, Is this that Haughty, Gallant, Gay Lothario? 1754 Adventurer No. 124 {page}7 The old gentleman, whose character I cannot better express than in the fashionable phrase which has been contrived to palliate false principles and dissolute manners, had been a gay man, and was well acquainted with the town. 1791 E. BURKE Let. to Member Nat. Assembly in Wks. VI. 36 The brilliant part of men of wit and pleasure, or gay, young, military sparks. 1798 J. FERRIAR Illustr. Sterne ii. 40 The dissolute conduct of the gay circles in France is not of modern date. 1847 H. ROGERS Ess. I. v. 214 For some years he lived a cheerful, and even gay, though never a dissipated life, in Paris. 1849 MACAULAY Hist. Eng. II. vi. 103 The place was merely a gay suburb of the capital. 1851 H. MAYHEW London Labour I. 382/2 The principal of the firm was what is termed ‘gay’. He was particularly fond of attending public entertainments. He sported a little as well, and delighted in horse-racing. 1879 National Police Gaz. 4 Jan. 6/1 Besides being very handsome, there are reasons to fear that Mr. Charles Victor Fremy was sometimes very, very gay. 1891 E. PEACOCK Narcissa Brendon I. 302 This elder Narcissa had led a gay and wild life while beauty lasted. 1897 J. HUTCHINSON Archives Surg. VIII. 224 My patient was a married man, who admitted having been very gay in early life. 1912 C. MACKENZIE Carnival xi. 128 They stayed another night [at the public house]... Jenny..had a flaming quarrel with her mother, who accused her of ‘going gay’. 1932 Appleton (Wisconsin) Post-Crescent 17 Aug. 9/4 Often the beginning of a married man's sidesteppings are coincident with his starting down the financial toboggan... Think of the number of men you know who began to lose out as soon as they began to go gay. 1939 H. WALPOLE Sea Tower iv. 54 She understood that there had been ‘ladies’. Her father had in fact a..reputation as ‘gay’.

c. Freq. euphem. Esp. of a woman: living by prostitution. Of a place: serving as a brothel. Now rare.
?1795 R. KING New Cheats of London Exposed 17 Those bullies who live upon whores of fashion, affect the dress and airs of men of rank and fortune, and by strutting occasionally by the side of a gay lady, add a consequence to her and themselves, and induce the ignorant cully to think that miss confers her favours on gentlemen alone. 1799 M. ROBINSON False Friend II. xlix. 293 ‘That's not my business,’ replied the bailiff. ‘She keeps a gay house at the west end of town. I dare say Miss can inform you for what purpose.’ 1805 J. DAVIS Post-Captain 150 As our heroes passed along the Strand, they were accosted by a hundred gay ladies, who asked them if they were good-natured... ‘Devil take me!..there is not a girl in the Strand that I would touch with my gloves on.’ 1825 C. M. WESTMACOTT Eng. Spy II. 22 Two sisters{em}both gay. 1857 J. E. RITCHIE Night Side of London 40 The gay women, as they are termed, are worse off than American slaves. 1868 Sunday Times 19 July 5/1 As soon as ever a woman has ostensibly lost her reputation, we, with a grim inappositeness, call her ‘gay’. 1879 National Police Gaz. 4 Jan. 3/1 She prospered in the gay resort she opened, and..it was the rendezvous for military men, merchants and politicians. 1885 Hull & Linc. Times 26 Dec. 8/4 She was leading a gay life. 1889 J. SAUL Statement: Cleveland Street Case (P.R.O. DPP 1/95/4) 38, I am still a professional ‘Maryanne’. I have lost my character and cannot get on otherwise. I occasionally do odd jobs for different gay people. 1890 Star 16 Jan. (ed. 5) 2/7, I worked hard at cleaning the houses of the gay people; the gay ladies on the beat. 1927 S. LEWIS Elmer Gantry xxvii. 358 It was thirty days before any of the gay ladies were really back at work. 1967 G. GREENE Root of all Evil in Coll. Stories (1972) 143 He now reported..that members of the secret society dressed themselves as women and in that guise frequented the gay houses of the town.

d. orig. U.S. slang. (a) Of a person: homosexual; (b) (of a place, milieu, way of life, etc.) of or relating to homosexuals.
Although more frequently used of male homosexuals, this sense can either include or exclude lesbians: see, for example, quots. 1962 and 1993.
A number of quotations have been suggested as early attestations of this sense (see a sample below). It is likely that, although there may be innuendo in some cases, these have been interpreted anachronistically in the light either of the context (for example the disguise as a homosexual of the protagonist of quot. 19411), or of knowledge about an author's sexuality.
[1922 G. STEIN Miss Furr & Miss Skeene in Geogr. & Plays 17 Helen Furr and Georgina Keene lived together then... They were together then and traveled to another place and stayed there and were gay there..not very gay there, just gay there. They were both gay there. 1929 N. COWARD (We all wore) Green Carnation in B. Day N. Coward: Compl. Lyrics (1998) 114/3 Art is our inspiration, And as we are the reason for the ‘Nineties’ being gay, We all wear a green carnation. 1938 D. NICHOLS & H. WILDE Bringing up Baby (film script, final revision) 35 David..comes on..in negligee... Aunt: Why are you wearing these clothes?.. David: Because I just went gay, all of a sudden. 1939 N. COWARD I went to Marvellous Party in B. Day N. Coward: Compl. Lyrics (1998) 195/2 Everyone's here and frightfully gay, Nobody cares what people say, Though the Riviera Seems really much queerer Than Rome at its height. 1941 ‘A. BOUCHER’ Case of Solid Key xiii. 235, I had deliberately changed my manners, my mannerisms. I had ‘gone gay’, as we say in Hollywood.]
1941 G. LEGMAN Lang. Homosexuality in G. W. Henry Sex Variants II. 1167 Gay, an adjective used almost exclusively by homosexuals to denote homosexuality, sexual attractiveness, promiscuity..or lack of restraint, in a person, place, or party. Often given the French spelling, gai or gaie by (or in burlesque of) cultured homosexuals of both sexes. 1941 T. PAINTER Homosexual (typescript) in G. Chauncey Gay N.Y. (1994) 18 Supposing one met a stranger on a train from Boston to New York and wanted to find out whether he was ‘wise’ or even homosexual. One might ask: ‘Are there any gay spots in Boston?’ And by a slight accent put on the word ‘gay’ the stranger, if wise, would understand that homosexual resorts were meant. 1947 Vice Versa in J. Katz Gay/Lesbian Almanac (1983) 624 Homosexuality is becoming less and less a ‘taboo’ subject, and..I venture to predict that there will be a time in the future when gay folk will be accepted as part of regular society. 1948 K. WILLIAMS Diary 22 Aug. (1993) 32 Met a charming young RAF fellow there obviously gay who played Debussy's Bergamasque with more understanding than I've heard for many a day. 1948 G. VIDAL City & Pillar ix. 246 [In New York] the words ‘fairy’ and ‘pansy’ were considered to be in bad taste. It was fashionable to say a person was ‘gay’. 1955 P. WILDEBLOOD Against Law I. 23 Most of the officers at the station had been ‘gay’..an American euphemism for homosexual. 1960 F. RAPHAEL Limits of Love I. v. 70 ‘Great thing about gay people.’.. ‘Gay?’ Tessa said. ‘Bent, queer, you know. Homosexual.’ 1962 ‘A. BANNON’ Beebo Brinker 146, I know you don't want it from a man. I know you're gay, for chrissakes. That's one thing I can spot a mile off. I like gay girls, Beebo, in case you ain't noticed. 1976 Rocky Mountain Rev. Lang. & Lit. 30 237 He wasn't going gay, was he, out there with Oberon's troupe? The actor he shared a house with was homosexual. 1979 United States 1980/81 (Penguin Travel Guides) 428 It is a natural center of gay life,..and gays have been incorporated into the city's mainstream. 1988 R. SHILTS Band played On III. vii. 67 Already, a Manhattan gay newspaper..had published a story about the rumours of a new killer pneumonia striking gay men. 1993 Spin Apr. 48/2 Queercore youth have punctured the stilted air of the ‘gay establishment’ by exposing the clichés and stereotypes present within the gay and lesbian community. 2003 Village Voice (N.Y.) 6 Aug. 32/1 Episcopalians took a big step toward electing their first openly gay bishop.

e. slang (chiefly U.S.) (sometimes considered offensive). Foolish, stupid, socially inappropriate or disapproved of; ‘lame’.
1978 G. KIMBERLY Skateboard 41 ‘It looks terrific on you.’ ‘It looks gay.’ 1987 Creem Close-up Presents No. 1. 6 Your so-stupid-they're-funny captions are gay. Get into some [real] humor. 1999 T. PARKER & M. STONE Cartman's Mom is Dirty Slut in South Park Scripts: Bk. 1 150 (stage direct.) As the camera zooms in on their faces, that gay ‘Near/Far’ song from ‘Titanic’ plays. 2001 Washington Post 8 May C9 Today, they [sc. teenagers] often use gay as an adjective meaning ‘stupid’... A gay movie is a stupid movie or one that makes no sense or one with a lame plot or all of those things. 2002 Independent 3 Oct. 21/3 At last{em}the first official confirmation that the term ‘gay’ has now ousted ‘pants’ as the popular youth slang for ‘naff’.

{dag}5. Of words or speech: brilliant, attractive, charming. Formerly also of reasoning, etc.: specious, plausible. Obs.
c1425 (a1420) LYDGATE Troyyes Bk. (Augustus A. 4) Prol. 276 In his dites, {th}at wer so fresche and gay With sugred wordes vnder hony soote, His galle is hidde lowe by the rote. ?a1475 ?a1475 Ludus C.(Vsp D.8) 355 Ys ther ony renogat among vs..or any that peruertyth the pepil wyth gay eloquens alon. 1529 T. MORE Dialogue Heresyes III, in Wks. 243/2 Those reasons semed..gay and glorious at the first sight. 1548 Hall's Vnion: Henry VI f. cxiij, Thei with money, and gay promises, first corrupted a Miller. 1562 T. COOPER Answ. in J. Jewel Apol. Priuate Masse f.57v, You will seeme with your gay gloses to glorifie the bloud of Christe. 1634 MILTON Comus 790 Enjoy your dear wit, and gay rhetoric. 1638 W. CHILLINGWORTH Relig. Protestants I. vi. §5. 327, I would fain know what gay probabilities you could devise to disswade him from this Resolution. 1711 POPE Ess. Crit. 24 Let not each gay Turn thy Rapture move. 1781 JOHNSON Pope in Pref. Wks. Eng. Poets VII. 41 All the gay varieties of diction were ready at his hand.

6. U.S. Amongst the Religious Society of Friends (Quakers) or other (esp. nonconformist) religious groups: denoting a person who has ceased adhering to the plain and simple life or beliefs of the community; worldly. Esp. in gay Quaker, to go gay. Now chiefly hist.
This sense perh. arises from the idea that showy clothes are a mark of worldliness; compare use of to go gay in 16th-17th cent. quots. at sense A. 2b.
1798 Aurora (Philadelphia) 6 Nov. 3/2 Her dress was pretty nearly that marked as ‘gay quakers’; she wore a white gown, white gloves, white..bonnet, green petticoat, and drab cloak. 1876 Ballou's Monthly Mag. July 90/1 Abner and Susan..were of the strictest sort of Friends, even in the Quaker City where all were strict, and ‘gay Quakers’ were as yet unknown. 1888 J. GOSSLER Turnpike-road 71 The attendance [at the Quaker meeting-house] was much larger fifty years ago... During the interval they have become ‘gay’, or ‘gone West’, or ‘over to the majority’. 1935 Amer. Speech 10 169/1 To go gay, meaning to become worldly in the sense of attending dances, card parties, or participating in other forbidden pleasures. 1969 Washington Post 9 Nov. G3/1 If an Amish young man enters the outside world{em}what they call ‘going gay’{em}his father is relieved of the obligation of providing a farm for that son. 1999 S. BRUCE Choice & Relig. vi. 151 Early Quakers would not have read a novel or attended the theatre but the Gay Quakers (usually the offspring of wealthy merchants)..became more and more like the Church of England neighbours with whom they mixed as social equals.

7. Brit. regional. In good health; well, convalescent.
1855 F. K. ROBINSON Gloss. Yorks. Words (at cited word), I am quite gay I thank you. 1877 E. PEACOCK Gloss. Words Manley & Corringham, Lincs. (at cited word), I heard thoo was badly, but thoo looks gay. 1887 W. D. PARISH & W. F. SHAW Dict. Kentish Dial. (at cited word), I don't feel very gay this morning. 1893 G. E. DARTNELL & E. H. GODDARD Gloss. Words Wilts. (at cited word), I do veel main gay agean 'smarnin', but I wur gashly bad aal laas' wick wi' th' rheumatiz. 1967 H. ORTON & M. F. WAKELIN Surv. Eng. Dial. IV. II. 740 Q[uestion]. If you are in good health, you must be feeling very... [Berkshire] Gay.

8. U.S. slang. Forward, impertinent, too free in conduct, over-familiar; reckless; usually in to get gay.
1889 Decatur (Illinois) Morning Rev. 26 Nov. 2/1 If those congressmen get gay, Harrison can take the large basket of loaves and fishes away from them. 1893 S. CRANE in Truth 18 Mar. 5/2 When a feller asts a civil question yehs needn't git gay. 1896 W. C. GORE in Inlander Jan. 147 Get gay, to joke boisterously; to show off; to act ‘smart’. 1900 G. ADE Fables in Slang 109 The Copper, perceiving that he had come very near getting Gay with our First Families, Apologized for Cutting In. 1901 S. MERWIN & H. K. WEBSTER Calumet ‘K’ xii. 226 He got gay one day. I warned him once, and then I threw him off the distributing floor. 1911 J. F. WILSON Land Claimers vi. 80 And I wouldn't get gay round her. 1915 P. G. WODEHOUSE Something Fresh iv, The flush on the little man's face deepened. ‘Are you trying to get gay with me?’ he demanded dangerously. 1917 U. SINCLAIR King Coal 11 Because you're too gay, kid. Didn't you know you had no business trying to sneak in here? 1940 L. ZINBERG Walk hard{em}talk Loud xvii. 350 You shouldn't be so gay with your mitts. 1970 J. BOUTON Ball Four 157 They give you a false sense of security. The result is that you get gay, throw it down the middle and get clobbered. 2002 H. TURTLEDOVE Through Darkness 22 Oraste pulled his stick off his belt and blazed the Kaunian, with deliberate malice, in the belly... ‘Anybody else want to get gay with us? We'll give you what he got.’

{dag}B. adv.

1. In a gay mood, joyously; = GAILY adv. 1. Obs. rare.
?a1400 (a1338) R. MANNYNG Chron. (Petyt 511) II. 332 At {th}e Whitsonen day, {th}e kyng his fest suld hold at Westmynstre fulle gay. 1754 J. SHEBBEARE Matrimony (1766) II. 140 This paid her Debts, and put some considerable Sum of Money in her Pocket, with which she lived as gay as before.

2. Brightly, showily; = GAILY adv. 2. Obs.
c1400 (?c1380) Cleanness l. 1568 He schal be gered ful gaye in gounes of porpre. 1415 T. HOCCLEVE To Sir J. Oldcastle l. 414 Ymages..causen men honure The seint after whom maad is that figure, And nat worsshippe it how gay it be wroght. 1568 (?a1513) W. DUNBAR Poems (1998) 238 Send in {ygh}our steid {Ygh}our ladeis, grathit vp gay. 1577 B. GOOGE tr. C. Heresbach Foure Bks. Husb. I. f. 7, Nor seelyng garnisht gaye with Imagrye, Nor ritche attyre we see. 1633 BP. J. HALL Occas. Medit. (ed. 3) §xcviii, Not acknowledging any friend but..the Nurse that dresses us gay. 1744 S. FIELDING Adventures David Simple II. 161 He was dressed very gay.

C. n.

{dag}1. A noble or beautiful lady. Also (rarely) of a man: a ‘gallant’. Cf. sense A. 1. Obs. (arch. in later use).
c1400 (?c1390) Sir Gawain & Green Knight (1940) l. 970 Gawayn gly{ygh}t on {th}at gay {th}at graciously loked. c1475 (a1400) Awntyrs Arthure (Ireland) 20 Then gloppunt that gaye, Hit was no ferly, in faye. c1540 Destr. Troy 2679 Parys was purpost with pouer to wende Into Grese for a gay, all on grete wise. 1572 Taill of Rauf Coil{ygh}ear 786, I will the ganandest gait to that gay glyde. 1899 E. C. DOWSON Poems (1905) 145 We see once more fair dame and gallant gay, The glamour and the grace of yesterday.

2. a. Anything that looks bright or showy; an ornament; esp. one that is used to amuse a child. Cf. NOSEGAY n. Now rare (Brit. regional in later use).
c1475 (c1399) Mum & Sothsegger (Cambr. Ll.4.14) (1936) II. 94 But how the gayes han y-gon, God wotte the sothe, Amonge my{ygh}tfull men alle these many {ygh}eris. c1500 Maid Emlyn 330 in W. C. Hazlitt Remains Early Pop. Poetry Eng. IV. 94 This mannes name was Harry, He coude full clene cary, He loued prety gayes. 1519 W. HORMAN Vulgaria xiiii. f. 147, This baby hath many gayes hangyng at his necke. 1601 A. DENT Path-way to Heauen 45 As if a theefe should be proud of his halter: a beggar of his cloutes: a childe of his gay. 1655 tr. C. Sorel Comical Hist. Francion ii. 36 He..took pleasure in such Gayes, on purpose to be the more noted by wearing Cloathes out of the Common Mode.
1880 M. A. COURTNEY Gloss. Words W. Cornwall in Gloss. Cornwall, Gays, children's toys: often, broken earthenware.

{dag}b. fig. A childish amusement; a trifle, a whim. Obs.
1577 N. BRETON Floorish vpon Fancie sig. Giiijv, Though (perhaps) most commonly ech youth, Is geuen in deede, to follow euery gaye. 1605 J. SYLVESTER tr. G. de S. Du Bartas Deuine Weekes & Wks. I. iii. 109 O how I grieue (deere Earth) that giuen to gayes, Most of best wits contemne thee now-a-dayes. 1667 L. STUCKLEY Gospel-glasse (1670) xxiii. 232 Forraigners breed their Children..to work those gaies with their hands. 1694 F. BRAGGE Pract. Disc. Parables iii. 83 It highly concerns us..no longer childishly to doat upon empty gayes and trifles.

3. Esp. in children's language: a picture in a book; (also occas.) a picture book. Now rare (Brit. regional in later use).
1630 tr. G. Botero Relations Famous Kingdoms World 598 (China) Their Printing is but stamping, like our great Letters or Gaies cut in wood; for they cut many words in one peece, and then stampe it off in paper. 1646 W. JENKYN Reformation's Remora 30 'Tis the gay in the lesson, that makes the childe delight to learn. a1657 R. LOVEDAY Lett. (1663) 149 Finding him still eager to put a gay before his book, I design'd him this which is now a cutting. 1698 L. MILBOURNE Notes Dryden's Virgil 4 Who, in the Inscription to his fine Gay in the Front of the Book, calls it very honestly Dryden's Virgil. 1839 C. CLARK John Noakes (E.D.S. No. 76) 157 At a stall, soon Mary bote A hume-book full ov gays. 1869 E. FITZGERALD Let. 2 Feb. (1980) III. 125 We have been..looking at ‘Gays’ (that is, Picture-books) which are a great Literature with these great children. 1884 S. BARING-GOULD Mehalah xxxii. 322 ‘The master of Rest Hall is turning over a new leaf to-day.’ ‘Maybe{em}but I doubt it will be a blank one..It won't be a gay for him.’ 1906 Daily Chron. 25 Apr. 6/7 Suffolk has a curious word which shows appreciation of the pictured page. They call the pictures ‘the gays’. ‘Why do you want those books?’ asked a Sunday school teacher the other day at Bungay. ‘Please, miss, we want to look at the gays,’ was the reply. 1953 S. GRAPES Boy John Lett. (1974) 62 We orl enjoy them luvely pictures yow hev in yar pearper. We allus hev time to look at them; Granfar still corl 'em gays.


4. With the.

a. With pl. concord. Light-hearted or carefree people as a class. Now rare.
1690 T. BETTERTON Prophetess V. 67 Let the Graces, and Pleasures repair, With the Youthful, the Gay, the Witty, and Fair. 1712 POPE To Young Lady in Misc. Poems 138 And the Gay mourn'd who never mourn'd before. 1750 JOHNSON Rambler No. 2 {page}1 This practice is a commodious subject of raillery to the gay. 1769 W. BUCHAN Domest. Med. I. 80 That greatest of human blessings [sleep]..visits the happy, the chearful, and the gay. 1779 Mirror No. 64, The gay, whose minds, unbent from serious and important occupations, had leisure to sport themselves in the regions of wit and humour. 1807 G. CRABBE Parish Reg. I, in Poems 45 'Twould warn the Giddy and awake the Gay. a1817 J. AUSTEN Persuasion (1818) IV. viii. 155 She had feelings for the tender, spirits for the gay, attention for the scientific, and patience for the wearisome; and had never liked a concert better. 1821 W. M. CRAIG Lect. Drawing viii. 440 To the youthful and gay, I would recommend these studies most particularly. 1868 Times 19 Sept. 10/5 (advt.) The ‘Percy Anecdotes’ are..universal favourites with the old and the young, the grave and the gay, the rich and the poor. 1923 Times 20 Aug. 11/6 Drink affects men in various ways, making the grave gay and the gay solemn. 1944 Times 17 Feb. 5/4 The grave would rather die than let the faintest watery ghost of a smile appear upon their features during the gay's turn.

b. With sing. concord. Light-hearted matters; freq. contrasted with the grave. Now rare.
1790 Times 24 Mar. 2/3 The Third Grand Selection..is announced again for this evening at Covent Garden Theatre. The gay and the grave are most happily combined in it. 1847 Tait's Mag. 14 69 Some pendulate perpetually between the grave and the gay. 1890 H. JAMES Tragic Muse I. ix. 191 They walked round..discussing: mingling the grave with the gay and paradox with contemplation. 1971 Times 9 Sept. 11/4 At last night's Prom, however, I felt that the grave predominated unduly over the gay, and that The Fairy Queen emerged more sombre than I had thought it before.

5. slang.

a. Chiefly in pl. orig. U.S. A homosexual person. Cf. sense A. 4d.
Although more frequently used of male homosexuals, like sense A. 4d this sense can either include or exclude lesbians.
1953 S. ROBINSON in True Crime May 49 The city decided to crack down on the ‘gays’ and..padlocked a number of known homosexual hangouts. 1972 Pride of Lions (Columbia Univ.) Apr. 7/3 What about a program acceptable to gays, students and workers? 1975 Whig-Standard (Kingston, Ont.) 13 Aug. 43/5 The female gays in Ottawa are split into four main groups. 1985 Sunday Tel. 30 June 18/7 What about gays, one asks, and will there be facilities for them to relate significantly to each other? 1998 Gay Times Aug. 53/2 Mr Justice Lightman said he felt that, if the MoD's policy towards gays in the armed forces did not change, then the policy faced ‘an uncertain future’. 2003 Time Out N.Y. 4 Dec. 22/2 Many liberal synagogues explicitly welcome gays and lesbians.

b. With the. With pl. concord. Homosexual people as a class.
1966 A. FIRTH Tall, Balding, Thirty-five xv. 194 Would he ever dare, even if he wanted to, join the shrill freemasonry of the London gay? 1968 Globe & Mail Mag. (Toronto) 13 Jan. 6/1 A coffee shop frequented by the gay. 1995 M. BUCHOLTZ in K. Hall & M. Bucholtz Gender Articulated III. xiv. 359 Passing..between the worlds of the insane and the sane, the deaf and the hearing, the blind and the seeing, the gay and the straight.

SPECIAL USES

S1. Chiefly parasynthetic.

gay-coloured adj.
1626 tr. T. Boccalini New-found Politicke I. i. 7 Fann's, made, not of the feathers of Ostriges, of Peacocks, or of any other *gay-coloured bird, but of herbs and flowers. 1777 H. MACKENZIE Julia de Roubigné I. xxiv. 191 He pulled off his hat, which he had adorned with some gay coloured ribands in honour of the occasion. 1866 W. D. HOWELLS Venetian Life xx. 342 Brilliant tapestries and other gay-coloured cloths. 1926 People's Home Jrnl. Feb. 35/2 Odd pieces of gay colored chiffon or crêpe de Chine may be cut in strips and used as bands around the fullness of the sleeve. 1983 Times 15 June 16/3 The blue-green leaves of Hosta sieboldiana make an attractive foil to..the gay coloured orange and yellow Mimulus malibu.

gay-flowered adj.
1854 J. D. HOOKER Himalayan Jrnls. I. 16 *Gay-flowered..Barlerias, and such hothouse favourites. 1886 F. H. BURNETT Little Ld. Fauntleroy (1887) vi. 114 Everything was bright and cheerful with gay-flowered chintz. 1958 Times 1 Feb. 8/6 Sweet scented jasmin and honeysuckle and gay flowered hibiscus shrubs.

gay-hearted adj.
1753 E. YOUNG Brothers III. 30 He..Kind, and *gay-hearted, came to visit me. 1853 J. G. WHITTIER Panorama (1856) 33 Gay-hearted Health. 1947 W. DE LA MARE Coll. Stories for Children 44 Fairies, sly, small, gay-hearted. 2000 Oregonian (Nexis) 1 Sept. 21 All of Dassin's characters live, breathe, bleed and seethe like you and me, from doom-faced Servais and gay-hearted Manuel to a frivolous hoochie-coochie dancer.

gay-humoured adj.
1668 DRYDEN Secret-love I. iii. 11 You were *gay humour'd, and you now are pensive. 1709 R. STEELE Tatler 16-18 June 2/1 One of 'em was a mercurial gay humour'd Man; the other a Man of a serious, but a great and gallant Spirit. a1834 T. PRINGLE Poet. Wks. (1839) 29 The gay-humoured Captain Fox, With whom I roamed 'mid Koonap's woods and rocks. 1883 F. M. PEARD Contradictions x, It was a fresh, gay-humoured day.

gay-looking adj.
1756 M. CALDERWOOD Jrnl. (1884) iv. 109 Harlem is a very pretty *gay-looking town. 1897 Daily News 21 Apr. 3/3 A gay looking gig now put out from Palermo. 1968 Times 23 Nov. 26/1 For people planning parties this might be the moment to consider which of those gay-looking bottles contains the wine which will suit them best. 2006 Sunday Telegraph (Nexis) 22 Jan. VII. 51 The comic-book trilogy starring Wesley Snipes as half-man, half-bloodsucker, all humourless vampire-scourge in gay-looking black leather.

gay-seeming adj.
1595 SPENSER Hymne Heavenly Beautie 299 This vile world and these *gay-seeming things. 1638 F. DU JON Painting of Ancients 328 It dazeleth our senses with the resplendent beames of gay-seeming things, not suffering them to see what is in the worke. 1887 H. D. RAWNSLEY Sonnets round Coast vii, The changing pageant of the bannered skies Forbade him trust gay-seeming enterprise. 2001 Canberra (Australia) Times (Nexis) 19 Nov. (TV Guide) 10 Tonight he brings home and plays his harp, a notoriously gay-seeming instrument in homophobic Ohio.

gay-themed adj.
1979 Los Angeles Times 21 Oct. (Calendar section) 30/4 He didn't want to talk about the *gay-themed film ‘Cruising’. 2004 P. BISKIND Down & Dirty Pictures ix. 293 Any gay-themed project would have a tough time.

S2. a. Chiefly in senses A. 3a or A. 4b.

gay blade n. a dashing or lively man; a rake (RAKE n.7); (in later use also punningly) a homosexual man, esp. a dashing or rakish one; cf. BLADE n. 11b.
1750 J. LOCKMAN tr. P. de Marivaux Pharsamond II. VII. 124 'Tis very pretty in you, (says a *gay blade,) to measure other people's corn by your bushel. 1803 G. COLMAN Love laughs at Locksmiths I. i. 9 And now, my gay blade of an officer, if you choose to enter the bit with me, we'll have a trial of skill. 1928 Amer. Speech 3 259 ‘Jim Dandy’, ‘spark’, ‘gay boy’, and ‘gay blade’, etc., are now replaced by ‘lounge lizzard’, ‘giggolo’, ‘cake eater’, [etc.]. 1960 W. CONTON African xii. 175 One could sense at once how he got his reputation as a gay blade on the one hand, and a statesman of genius on the other. 1968 ‘A. D'ARCANGELO’ Homosexual Handbk. 48 It seems to me incredible that so few of the gay blades one meets form permanent or relatively permanent attachments. 2001 J. MURDOC & D. PRICE Courting Justice xi. 304 The justice who had railed about using the..word ‘home’ in connection with a swinging gay blade like Hardwick apparently could, nevertheless, empathize with gay couples.

gay cat n. U.S. slang (now rare) a young or inexperienced tramp, esp. one who acts as a scout; a hobo who accepts occasional work.
Some examples imply a relationship with an older tramp involving sexual favours, but this cannot be taken as evidence for sense A. 4d: see also etymological note.
1893 Cent. Mag. Nov. 106 The *gay-cats are men who will work for ‘very good money’, and are usually in the West in the autumn to take advantage of the high wages. 1897 ‘J. FLYNT’ in Forum Feb. 741 Nothing arouses his [sc. the hobo's] scorn more than the dilettante, or ‘gay-cat’, as he calls him. 1901 J. LONDON Let. 6 Dec. (1966) 126 Wyckoff is a gay cat. That was his rating when he wandered over the States. 1905 Amer. Mag. 209/1 From this center a number of so-called ‘gay cats’, or ‘spies’ will visit a small village. 1914 Sat. Evening Post 4 Apr. 10/3, I ain't no gay-cat that 'ud kick you after makin' friends. 1926 J. BLACK You can't Win vi. 74 He must have been an awful gay cat to get into the end of a carload of planed lumber. It's suicide. 1935 N. ERSINE Underworld & Prison Slang 39 Geycat,..a homosexual boy. 1950 R. CHANDLER Let. 18 May (1966) 78 A gay-cat is a young punk who runs with an older tramp and there is always a connotation of homosexuality. Again, he could be a ‘look-out’ (outside man) or a ‘finder’ (finger or finger man), but that is a derived or occasional meaning and not exact. 1980 E. WHITE in L. Michaels & C. B. Ricks State of Lang. 238 In American slang at the turn of the century, a ‘gay cat’ was a younger, less experienced man who attached himself to an older, more seasoned vagrant or hobo; implicit in the relationship between gay cat and hobo was a sexual liaison.

gay deceiver n. now rare (a) a deceitful rake (RAKE n.7); (b) (in pl.) slang = FALSIES n.; (also occas.) false eyelashes.
1710 C. JOHNSON Force of Friendship II. 10 You have already fought this *gay Deciever [sic], Your Arm Victorious, blush'd with his best Blood. 1803 G. COLMAN Love laughs at Locksmiths II. i. 25 Says he, ‘I am a handsome man, but I'm a gay deceiver.’ 1809 B. H. MALKIN tr. A. R. Le Sage Adventures Gil Blas III. VII. i. 10, I..posted myself on the high road, where the gay deceiver was sure to be intercepted. 1898 J. D. BRAYSHAW Slum Silhouettes 44 Ah! he's a gay decaver, is Billy, like all the min. Sure I wouldn't trust my ould gran'mother wid him. 1942 D. POWELL Time to be Born (1943) x. 232 Her pink sweater..clung properly to the seductive curves of her Gay Deceivers. 1962 Guardian 12 Mar. 4/7 False bosoms..were known as ‘gay deceivers’. 1969 M. PUGH Last Place Left xvii. 121 ‘Your gay deceivers aren't straight,’ I said. ‘My eyelashes, you mean?’ 1971 W. REYBURN Bust-up (1972) 67 In those days when what were known as ‘gay deceivers’ were made of rubber, women in general did not realise that the quality of falsies on the market in any given year was directly related to the weather in Malaya.

gay dog n. a man given to revelling or self-indulgence.
1847 DICKENS Dombey & Son (1848) xxvi. 266 Well! we are *gay dogs, there's no denying. 1900 G. SWIFT Somerley 54 Oh! that first kiss! how proud of it we are, what gay dogs we feel! 1910 S. KAYE-SMITH Spell Land xix. 221 He felt rather a gay dog. 1952 H. E. BATES Love for Lydia (1956) II. ii. 88 Then Alex kissed Lydia..in his gay-dog, slightly ironic, debonair fashion. 1992 Guardian 25 July (Weekend Suppl.) 9/4, I utterly deny the description of me in the press as a gay dog [or] Lothario.

Gay Gordons n. (with the) (a) the Gordon Highlanders (see quot. 1925); (b) an old-time dance performed in couples (originally to a tune called ‘The Gordon Highlanders’) and popular at ceilidhs and social dances.
1823 C. K. SHARPE Ballad Bk. 37 His name is Glenlogie, when he is from home, He is of the *gay Gordons, his name it is John. 1925 E. FRASER & J. GIBBONS Soldier & Sailor Words 185 Gay Gordons, The, The Gordon Highlanders. In particular the 2nd Battalion, the 92nd Highlanders. 1947 J. R. GILLESPIE Old Tyme Dancing 32 (heading) The Gay Gordons. 1955 J. I. M. STEWART Guardians III. iv. 238 The music of the Samba and the Gay Gordons. 1966 Crescendo Dec. 27/1 A musical chore to be dealt with grudgingly like the Veleta or the Gay Gordons. 1990 J. FALEY Up oor Close (2000) v. 90 And ye were all squashed in and dancing like the Gay Gordons, or the quick-step, fox-trot, waltzes. Just in a wee room, all right together.

Gay Nineties n. (also with lower-case initials) orig. and chiefly U.S. the 1890s, often perceived as a period of optimism, prosperity, and extravagance; freq. with the; cf. naughty nineties n. at NAUGHTY adj. Special uses 2.
1925 R. V. CULTER in Life 9 Apr. 7 (title of cartoon) The *Gay Nineties. 1930 O. M. SAYLER Revolt in Arts I. 8 The skyscraper, that upstart coxcomb of the gay nineties, pushed onward and upward. 1961 E. C. MARSTON Origin & Devel. Northeastern Univ. i. 6 The Gay Nineties have perhaps been given a glamor they do not deserve yet the appeal of electric lights, gaming rooms, and saloons must have been strong to country boys of the time. 2000 Oxf. Amer. Mar.-Apr. 115/3 It had a real Gay Nineties, red plush, stripey kind of decor.

b. (In sense A. 4d.)

gay bar n. a public house or bar frequented predominantly by homosexuals.
1947 K. WILLIAMS Diary 16 Jan. (1993) 9 Went round to the *gay bar which wasn't in the least gay and saw K. and Co. 1976 M. MACHLIN Pipeline xxxviii. 412 There were no gay bars or hangouts, and very few gays dared walk the streets in the more extravagant, deviant-type-wardrobes. 2005 Independent 18 Jan. (Review section) 5/4 In gay bars the guys have a couple of drinks, but they're more interested in dancing and posing.

gay boy n. sometimes depreciative a homosexual man.
In early use prob. not a fixed collocation.
1945 T. WILLIAMS Let. 15 Mar. in Lett. to D. Windham (1976) 167 [She] goes hog-wild in the presence of *gay boys, flitting from one to another... She..fixed me up with a charming Captain in the air-force. 1951 E. LAMBERT Sleeping-house Party vii. 74 In a way it was an odd threesome. It occurred to me that Esther rather hung round our two gay boys. 1995 Face Sept. 60/1, I always got called gay. ‘Oy, pouf! Gayboy!’ 2000 J. HARVEY Gimme Gimme Gimme 65 Favourite Perfume. A special fragrance called Poppers, that all those gayboys use in the clubs. They put it up their noses. I dab it behind me ears.

Gay Day n. (also with lower-case initials) orig. U.S. any of various all-day public events intended to promote and raise awareness of gay and lesbian issues.
1971 Sunday Post-Crescent (Appleton, Wisconsin) 29 Aug. 1/5 *Gay Day brought Trafalgar its oddest hour. 1980 Family Relations 29 176/1 One father and his 10-year-old daughter march annually in San Francisco's Gay-Day Parade with the gay father contingent. 2005 Chicago Tribune (Midwest ed.) 13 Nov. V. 14/4 Evengelicals waged a boycott of Walt Disney Co. for its benefits to same-sex partners, as well as gay days at its theme parks.

gay gene n. colloq. a sequence or sequences of DNA supposedly predisposing a person towards a homosexual orientation.
1986 Los Angeles Times 13 July (Mag. section) 21/1 An extreme sociobiologist would argue that there is a *gay gene. 1993 New Scientist 24 July 3/2 While the ‘discovery’ of the gay gene may generally have been welcomed by gay rights groups, it could..also help to produce tests to see whether a fetus was carrying that gene, or a search for ways to alter its function. 2000 H. HAMMOND Lesbian Art in Amer. I. 99 Despite reports of a gay gene, most of us believe that to be queer is not simply a biological condition but a combination of biology, socially conditioned factors, and conscious choice, as is heterosexuality.

gay ghetto n. colloq. an urban area with a significant homosexual population and a high concentration of businesses catering primarily to this community (sometimes characterized negatively as isolationist or segregated); cf. gay village n.
1970 N.Y. Times 31 Aug. 28 Police harassment of homosexuals had been intensified within the last three weeks in the ‘*gay ghettos’ of Manhattan. 1994 P. HINDLE Gay Communities in S. Whittle Margins of City i. 13 One possible end product of the creation of gay space is a segregated ‘gay ghetto’, similar to ethnic and racial ghettos, but in this case defined by a combination of sexuality, lifestyle and culture. 2004 Gay Times Feb. 117/1 The last thing I want from a holiday is to swap the fast-lane, 24/7 concrete-jungle of queer London for the gay ghetto of another large city.

gay icon n. a public figure said to be particularly admired by homosexuals, esp. for showing spirit, fortitude, flamboyance, or a disregard of convention.
1984 M. BRONKSI Culture Clash II. 104 Judy Garland was the quintessential pre-Stonewall *gay icon. She made a legend out of her pain and oppression, and although she always managed to come back, she never fought back. 1991 Pink Paper 30 Mar. 11/1 Gay icons may come and go, but few can command such an adulatory following and even fewer repay the devotion with such dedication as diva Eartha Kitt. 2005 Financial Times (Nexis) 17 Dec. 12 David Beckham is so comfortable as a gay icon that he has posed as a pin-up for the gay magazine Attitude.

gay lib n. [see LIB n.4] orig. U.S. = gay liberation n.
1970 Los Angeles Free Press 6 Feb. 17 (heading) *Gay Lib Front meets. 1970 Los Angeles Free Press 20 Feb. 18/3 The Pope hopes that all Gay organizations{em}Old line, Gay lib, motorcycle, and social{em}will join in the demonstration. 1974 A. GINSBERG Interview in Spontaneous Mind (2001) 309 The gay lib movement will have to come to terms sooner or later with the limitations of sex. 1986 Guardian Weekly 26 Jan. 12/4 The bars{em}since gay lib, their fronts are of transparent glass{em}do not have invitingly dim-lit backrooms. 1999 Callaloo 22 135 The things I..quickly started reading everything I could about, in porno magazines and gay lib books..certainly had nothing to do with..black people or poverty.

gay liberation n. (also with capital initials) orig. U.S. the liberation of homosexuals from social stigma and discrimination.
1969 Berkley Barb (San Francisco) 10 Oct. 12/2 A magazine devoted to *gay liberation is shortly to be published. 1985 Listener 7 Feb. 28/3 To depict life from the standpoint of a male prostitute..is to make a statement, if not to thump the tub for gay liberation. 2002 R. GOLDSTEIN Attack Queers ii. 34 The cadres of gay liberation never imagined that straight society would be so quick to embrace them.

Gay Liberation Front n. orig. U.S. a movement promoting gay liberation.
1969 Village Voice (N.Y.) 18 Sept. 2/1 (advt.) The *Gay Liberation Front sends love to all gay men and women in the homosexual community. 1974 A. GINSBERG Interview in Spontaneous Mind (2001) 335 Look out straights, here comes the Gay Liberation Front, springing up like warts all over the bland face of Amerika. 1993 New Republic 20 Dec. 26/1 The Gay Liberation Front clung to the highly un-Bolshevik anti-elitism of the earlier New Left.

gay liberationist n. (also with capital initials) orig. U.S. an activist in the Gay Liberation Front; an advocate of gay liberation.
1970 Times Recorder (Zanesville, Ohio) 13 Nov. 12/2, I plan to join the *Gay Liberationists as a sympathizer. 2003 Daily Tel. (Nexis) 11 July 26 Evangelicals are not the only ones who object to the forcing of a gay liberationist agenda on the Church.

gay marriage n. a relationship or bond between partners of the same sex which is likened to that between a married man and woman; (in later use chiefly) a formal marriage bond contracted between two people of the same sex, often conferring legal rights; (also) the action of entering into such a relationship; the condition of marriage between partners of the same sex.
1971 W. D. OBERHOLTZER Is Gay Good? Introd. 41 Also, current research has not comprehensively tapped the world of the *gay marriage, nor has it determined whether the male homosexual goes through stages, e.g., promiscuous while young but nonpromiscuous when older or when married. 1977 Washington Post (Nexis) 23 May C1 Gays seized the phrase as a legalization of gay marriages{em}and Dixon's voters, many of them representing church groups, were outraged. 1990 Daily Tel. 19 Apr. 12/8 Gay marriages for 648 Danes... Under the law, homosexual couples enjoy almost all the rights of a heterosexual marriage, except adoption. 2001 Times 27 Feb. I. 1/5 One plan under consideration is to give away the first 100 ‘gay marriage’ licences free to publicise the scheme which brings London into line with San Francisco, Amsterdam and Paris.

gay panic n. anxiety or panic as a reaction to (one's own or more usually another's) homosexuality, esp. that supposedly provoked in a heterosexual man by another man's homosexual advances, and sometimes claimed as the cause of violent conduct (freq. in N. Amer. legal contexts, esp. attrib. in gay panic defence); cf. homosexual panic n. at HOMOSEXUAL adj. and n. Additions.
1986 Times 14 June 3/1 (heading) *Gay panic led man to kill. 1989 Harvard Law Rev. 102 1543 Some courts, however, have refused to acquit defendants on the basis of the gay panic defense. 1994 Washington Post 23 Dec. A3 A Washington attorney with Gay and Lesbian Americans, says he has heard the ‘gay panic defense’ before and brands it ‘nonsense’. 1999 Independent on Sunday 7 Nov. 5/2 In an ongoing murder trial, lawyers attempted to use ‘gay panic’ as a defence, stating that the defendant was provoked to violence by homosexual advances. 2001 N.Y. Times 24 June I. 15/5 They say he has a history of supporting anti-gay legislation, including a ‘gay panic’ measure that would have permitted someone accused of attacking a gay person to argue that the victim provoked the attack with ‘lewd and lascivious’ behavior.

gay plague n. offensive (orig. U.S.) Aids (so called because it was first identified amongst homosexual men).
1982 New York 31 May 52 (heading) The *gay plague. 1985 Sun 7 Dec. 3/1 Christian, 32, has turned down an out-of-court offer of £7000 because, he says, Hudson knowingly exposed him to the ‘Gay Plague’. 1988 M. BISHOP Unicorn Mountain xi. 100, I think he must believe I'm highly infectious{em}the Gay Plague's answer to Typhoid Mary. 2005 Independent 1 Feb. 31/3 In 1987..there was still a widely held belief that the ‘gay plague’ was a punishment for indiscriminate immorality.

gay power n. (also with capital initials) orig. U.S. the exertion of social, cultural, or economic power by homosexuals; the advocacy of this (freq. used as a slogan by gay civil rights activists).
1969 N.Y. Times 30 June 22/1 Graffiti on the boarded-up windows of the inn included: ‘Support *gay power’ and ‘Legalize gay bars’. 2004 Guardian (Nexis) 4 Nov. 13 Gay power will shake the foundations of one of Spain's most reactionary institutions today when an officer from the civil guard police force formally asks to share married quarters with his male partner.

gay pride n. a sense of self-esteem engendered by a person's (public) acknowledgement of his or her homosexuality; solidarity among homosexual men and women, esp. as expressed publicly; (freq. attrib. and with capital initials) any of various public events intended to promote this feeling.
1970 Washington Post 29 June A20/2 It [sc. the march] was the climax of what its organizers called ‘*Gay Pride Week’. 1972 Pride of Lions (Columbia Univ.) Apr. 2/2 What is important is that you come out, have gay pride and leave the dance with a sense of Gay power. 1987 J. RULE Memory Board vi. 96 She toyed with the idea of joining one of the early gay pride marches. 1993 R. SHILTS Conduct Unbecoming I. ix. 95 Hence, gay pride became a movement watchword. ‘Coming out’, or acknowledging one's homosexuality{em}either privately to oneself or publicly{em}became like a born-again experience to the new gay activists. 2000 M. ALBO Hornito 27 Last weekend was Gay Pride, and I spent it on Ecstasy, howling, walking around in the gold boot-cut jeans I got at the Salvation Army for three dollars.

gay rape n. = male rape n. at MALE adj. and n.1 Compounds 2.
1974 Daily Rev. (Hayward, Calif.) 26 Sept. 10/2 (heading) Marcus Welby episode on *gay rape cancelled. 2004 Evening Standard (Nexis) 17 Nov. 7 The investigation looked at..claims of a cover-up over an alleged gay rape.

gay rights n. orig. U.S. the civil rights of homosexual people, esp. in terms of equality of freedom, privilege, and opportunity with heterosexuals.
1972 Pride of Lions (Columbia Univ.) Apr. 2/3 A point by point *Gay rights platform for the United States in 1972 was drawn up. 2004 Times Lit. Suppl. 4 June 3/2 He was outspoken in his advocacy of gay rights, of peace and religious tolerance.

gay scene n. the cultural and social environment associated with homosexuals; spec. gay and lesbian bars, clubs, etc., considered collectively as a social scene.
1969 Los Angeles Times 30 Mar. (Calendar section) 32/1 The plays contribute to a saner public attitude to the so-called *gay scene by divesting it of its furtive glamor. 1971 J. VON ROHR in W. D. Oberholtzer Is Gay Good? i. 41 Nonetheless, ‘straight’ sex is a noticeable part of the male gay scene. 1988 Observer 2 Oct. V. 3/4 Born from the New York black and Puerto Rican gay scene, Vogueing nights are friendly and strangely innocent affairs. 2005 Gay Times Dec. 61/1 He was also bored by the Muscle Marys' and disco bunnies' monopoly of the gay scene.

gay sex n. sexual activity between people of the same sex.
1967 Barnard (N.Y.) Bull. 29 Nov. 4/1 Jason tells about taking a box of poppers to an orgy at a Turkish bath,..talks about *gay sex. 2004 Gay Times Feb. 91/2 Official advice now suggests ordinary-strength condoms are just as safe as the thicker varieties traditionally recommended for gay sex.

gay village n. an urban area with a significant homosexual population and a high concentration of businesses catering primarily to this community.
1982 United Press Internat. Newswire (Nexis) 1 Sept., Ogunquit, Maine (is) certainly a booming *gay village. 1998 HotLine Autumn-Winter 73/5 Located in the popular Gay Village.., this busy pub attracts a cosmopolitan crowd and is open until 2am at weekends. 2005 Cape Etc. (Cape Town) Feb.-Mar. 86/2 Join us..in Cape Town's gay village. Lush is an exclusive night out for the girls..with some of the hottest lesbians around.

COMPOUNDS

C1. Parasynthetic compounds of the adverb (chiefly with present and past participles), as gay-beseen (see BESEE v. II.), gay-careering, gay-chirping, gay-dressed, gay-motleyed, gay-painted, gay-shifting, gay-smiling, gay-spent, gay-spotted, gay-throned, etc., adjs.
1549 T. CHALONER tr. Erasmus Praise of Folie O ij b, What saie you to Courtiers? these minion gaibeseen gentilmen. 1590 SPENSER Faerie Queene II. iii. sig. P3v, She her gay painted plumes disorderid..Peepes forth, and soone renews her natiue pride. 1596 SPENSER Faerie Queene VI. V. sig. Dd4v, Deckt with greene boughes, and flowers gay beseene. 1642 H. MORE {Psi}{upsilon}{chi}{omega}{delta}{iota}{alpha} Platonica sig. G3v, There be six Orders 'fore you do descend To this gay painted bow. 1690 W. MOUNTFORT Successfull Straingers II. ii. 15 The Gay Chirping Flutterers of the Air To their own mossy Architects repair. 1728 J. THOMSON Spring 12 The downward Sun Looks out illustrious from amid the Flush Of broken Clouds, gay-shifting to his Beam. 1728 J. THOMSON Winter (ed. 5) 36 Those busy, bustling Days..Those gay-spent, festive Nights. 1742 W. COLLINS Persian Ecl. iii. 16 Gay-motley'd Pinks and sweet Junquils she chose. 1744 J. THOMSON Spring in Seasons (new ed.) 25 Nor broad Carnations; nor gay-spotted Pinks. 1747 G. LYTTELTON To Mem. Lady ii. 2 Ye Lawns gay-smiling with eternal Green, Oft have You my Lucy seen! 1777 T. WARTON Poems 36 The butterfly, gay-painted soon, Explores awhile the tepid noon. 1777 T. WARTON Poems 76 But since, gay-thron'd in fiery chariot sheen, Summer has smote each daisy-dappled dale. 1784 Distressed Lady 9 In this manner she sat for about half an hour, when a very gay dressed lady came into the room, and said what is the matter with you madam? 1821 Xarifa in Lady Dacre Dramas & Occas. Poems V. ii. 209 The knights appellants, gay-careering, urge Their foaming coursers o'er the vacant space. 1824 T. FENBY Outl. Four Temperaments I, in Wild Roses 78 Thy gay-careering soul. a1832 P. M. FRENEAU Poems (1929) 269 Gay spotted pinks their charming bloom withdrew, And Polyanthus quench'd its thousand dyes. 1844 LD. HOUGHTON Palm Leaves 132 The sparrow Gay-chirping by the door. 1848 A. H. CLOUGH Bothie iv. 80 Seizing his gay-smiling Janet. 1850 H. MELVILLE White-jacket xii.59 For sights, a gay-painted punch-bowl, or Dutch tankard{em}never mind about filling it{em}might be recommended. 1900 R. C. DUTT tr. Ramayana VII. VI. vi. 100 And five thousand gay-dressed damsels shall upon my Sita wait.

C2. Objective compounds of the noun (in sense C. 5a).

gay-baiting n. orig. U.S. the incitement or exploitation of anti-homosexual sentiment, esp. for political gain; the harassment, abuse, or intentional provocation of homosexuals.
1973 Los Angeles Times 28 Apr. II. 14/5 Representatives of the city's gay or homosexual community..accuse Arnegergh of ‘*gay-baiting’ in his campaign... Arnegergh's ads ‘are inflammatory..and could set off a mass pogrom against us’. 1984 Signs 9 705 There is a lot of gay-baiting in my office, as well as anti-gay remarks and jokes. One gay man was already fired. 1997 Sunday Times 26 Oct. (News Review section) 6/2 They have lost the battle to outlaw abortion; and there is only so much gay-baiting even their grassroots will tolerate.
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Postby madsglen » Mon Jun 29, 2009 10:08 pm

nimby wrote:
madsglen wrote:Junk science? Illuminating? Waste of a web page?


Very illuminating. Thank you. One question though. Why would you even suggest that the story is "Junk science" or a "Waste of a web page"? Are their/our feelings and/or reasons not as valid as some one who is 100% gay or 100% straight? I don't undarstand, so please help me out. Is Psychology today not a valid enough source? Why not?

See, you almost made ME feel invalid. Almost. But you didn't :D .

I'm so glad that more and more research on the topic is being done, and slowly, homosexuals are understanding that Bis are not confused, lying to themselves, or in denial. WE are people too with an alternate lifestyle that is slowly gaining acceptance, just like homosexuality is. Just please remember, not everything is black or white. All you gotta do is scratch the surface a bit and we learn that most things come in a lovely shade of grey.

And the more we learn, the better people we become.

Cheers, and, no, no offense taken.


Nimby, there was no offense meant or malice on my part in leading into the link with those questions. Really was just meant to spur discussion since I thought your question and the discussion was worthwhile. Yes, I think Psychology Today is a valid source. Although I do have some questions/issues with some of the content which probably have to do with the fact that I read it with the perspective of a gay man who struggled for a long time (and sometimes still do). Believe me, if I had an issue with the article or the bulk of it's information I would have had a comment or two...
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Postby nimby » Mon Jun 29, 2009 10:58 pm

Like I said, Madsglen, no offense taken. I'm just glad that more legitimate research is being done on the topic.

Cause I struggle too. As a bi married man. Every day. And it's nice to know that others are starting to see that struggle. Homosexuality has and is being studied all over the world, but bisexuals, for the longest time, have been ignored. I'm just glad that it is getting some recognition.

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Re: Browsing Craigslist...

Postby Cachasa » Thu Jul 16, 2009 3:57 am

I find Craigslist creepy. Some of the adds are for down right dangerous behavior. One was to the effect, "come to my appartment downtown, I like doing oral. No talking, must be willing to show up and walk into a pitch-black room undress and leave when done".


That's scary.
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Re: Browsing Craigslist...

Postby ispeaktexan » Mon Jul 20, 2009 6:05 pm

I dislike craigslist. People spam on there, and post fake things.
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Re: Browsing Craigslist...

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Postby ispeaktexan » Tue Jul 21, 2009 1:51 pm

Thats really weird...and that picture isn't very appealing.
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