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Postby ballsy25 » Sat Dec 13, 2008 11:20 pm

what up dudes, my name's kevin and i recently started a blog str8dudes on blogspot.

i read this forum pretty regularly, but i never posted anythin' here. just wanted to get da word out about my blog, it relates to a lot of da issues talked about on here.

hope this doesn't sound too much like self-promotion, because i think y'all will be interested in it.

thanks and lemme know what u think!

kev

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Postby Pazuzu P. Sasquatch » Sun Dec 14, 2008 5:49 am

Some great pics, I must say. . . . :D
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Postby dracuscalico » Sun Dec 14, 2008 4:37 pm

I don't see the connection between your blog and this site at other than the fact you post photos of guys. Straight guys. I don't understand why gay guys crave looking at photos of straight guys knowing up front they are straight. For me it has the oppostie effect, I am not interested in looking at guys I know would never be interested in guys. It's self torturing, like starving villagers tuning their TV's to the Food Network.
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Postby Pazuzu P. Sasquatch » Sun Dec 14, 2008 4:58 pm

Bring 'em on, I say. . .

I don't know what it is about nekkid guys, I just never get tired of looking at them. . . .
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Postby ballsy25 » Sun Dec 14, 2008 5:28 pm

thanks for da response, D.

i get a lotta my pics from gay sites, but i refrain from putting up any explicit pics (like sex pics or ones that are real gay seeming). i wanna make my blog "homoerotic," so that both both gay and str8 dudes could be into it.

i don't lust after str8 dudes... im one of 'em, in so much as i look and act like 'em. there my bros, whether or not im havin' sex wit 'em. like most dudez, whether gay or str8, i like bondin' and hangin' out wit my bros.

i think da point is how do u KNOW these dudes are str8? a gay dude can look at it and be like, yeah that dudes hot, i'd bang him if he was into it. and a str8 dude can look at it and be like that's a cool lookin' dude, i wanna be like him. or its a crazy pic or a funny pic or whateverz.

that's my thinkin' anyway. thanks for checkin' it out askin' about it and i hope y'all keep checkin' back.

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Postby dracuscalico » Sun Dec 14, 2008 6:18 pm

Pazuzu P. Sasquatch wrote:Bring 'em on, I say. . .

I don't know what it is about nekkid guys, I just never get tired of looking at them. . . .


Perhaps I am wired differently but, I don't understand how people happily partnered could even care about that. The few times I've been involved with someone, it never even entered my mind to look at the internet because my needs were being met in the real world.

I also think the internet exposes couples to too many other "options" that they can communicate with. Normally, couples don't go to Circuit Parties, or such events unless they are on a short leash BECAUSE of all the opportunities out there tempting someone to stray. The internet allows you to stray electronically.


Is j - rking off on cam with a stranger cheating? Yes, because it is the thought, action and intention that counts whether it's in person or not and it all starts with innocently "just looking" at pictures of naked guys.
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Postby Pazuzu P. Sasquatch » Sun Dec 14, 2008 7:05 pm

You're kinda getting into the "He who looks with lust commits adultery" thing there, Drac.

Me and the Boss are militantly monogamous. But everyone has sexual fantasies. It's part of being human. As long as one keeps the line drawn between fantasy and the reality of being in a committed relationship, what's the big deal?

We don't go to gay bars, or even straight bars very often, much less circuit parties. We don't even own a webcam. But neither of us is threatened by the other looking at beautiful guys. It would really be kind of selfish for either of us to begrudge the other of that.

Different couples do it differently. I've seen couples go the "open relationship" route, and that almost never works out. I've also seen couples go to the other extreme, which is kinda what it sounds like you're talking about, where even looking at porn is considered stepping out. . . Usually that kind of thing is more about control than love, and those relationships don't last long (or aren't worth having if they do last.)

Neither of us has sex with other people, but we ARE allowed be sexual beings. . . . . We're on our seventh year together. . . .
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Postby Earl Butz » Sun Dec 14, 2008 7:05 pm

You have some nice eye candy on your blog, but it's sort of irrelevant to us here.

Straight guys without shirts are extremely homoerotic.... :D
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Postby masculinity » Sun Dec 14, 2008 11:38 pm

dracuscalico wrote:I don't see the connection between your blog and this site at other than the fact you post photos of guys. Straight guys. I don't understand why gay guys crave looking at photos of straight guys knowing up front they are straight. For me it has the oppostie effect, I am not interested in looking at guys I know would never be interested in guys. It's self torturing, like starving villagers tuning their TV's to the Food Network.

And this is where most gays go wrong...
apparently you've just shut your mind to reality.
Although, its true that straight men just shut off their sexuality to gays (that includes people who are effeminate, as well as those who may be striaght acting but who acknowledge having liking men)... because for straights the line between straighthood and queerhood is of acknowledging your desire...

The fact that many 'gays' consider 'straights' as objects of desire, is another pointer that there maybe something on there...

It apparently doesn't help to define something on your own whims and fancies and then expect them to fit into that image...

I know that you'll continue to put your head in the sands, but here's the link again, showing that for straight men all around the world, having sexual fun with other straight guys is a favourite pastime... which is disguised as having just plain fun... (and it helps straight men to indulge in sexuality for men without having to acknowledge it, even though it may not be much...)

http://videos-on-universal-male-male-de ... gspot.com/
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Postby PhillyAgenda » Sun Dec 14, 2008 11:45 pm

Oh yeah, all kinds of homoerotic there. Can't help but look.
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Postby masculinity » Mon Dec 15, 2008 12:08 am

ballsy25 wrote:thanks for da response, D.

i get a lotta my pics from gay sites, but i refrain from putting up any explicit pics (like sex pics or ones that are real gay seeming). i wanna make my blog "homoerotic," so that both both gay and str8 dudes could be into it.

i don't lust after str8 dudes... im one of 'em, in so much as i look and act like 'em. there my bros, whether or not im havin' sex wit 'em. like most dudez, whether gay or str8, i like bondin' and hangin' out wit my bros.

i think da point is how do u KNOW these dudes are str8? a gay dude can look at it and be like, yeah that dudes hot, i'd bang him if he was into it. and a str8 dude can look at it and be like that's a cool lookin' dude, i wanna be like him. or its a crazy pic or a funny pic or whateverz.

that's my thinkin' anyway. thanks for checkin' it out askin' about it and i hope y'all keep checkin' back.

kev

Kudos to you, that you are confident of your manhood enough to keep your straight identity and still own up to appreciate men, on a gay site where they are more than ready to force the gay identity on you.

Perhaps, my site may interest you:

http://youth-masculinity.blogspot.com

and

http://men-masculinity.newsvine.com/
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Postby masculinity » Mon Dec 15, 2008 12:35 am

dracuscalico wrote:
Pazuzu P. Sasquatch wrote:Bring 'em on, I say. . .

I don't know what it is about nekkid guys, I just never get tired of looking at them. . . .


Perhaps I am wired differently but, I don't understand how people happily partnered could even care about that. The few times I've been involved with someone, it never even entered my mind to look at the internet because my needs were being met in the real world.

I also think the internet exposes couples to too many other "options" that they can communicate with. Normally, couples don't go to Circuit Parties, or such events unless they are on a short leash BECAUSE of all the opportunities out there tempting someone to stray. The internet allows you to stray electronically.


Is j - rking off on cam with a stranger cheating? Yes, because it is the thought, action and intention that counts whether it's in person or not and it all starts with innocently "just looking" at pictures of naked guys.


That's one place where I totally agree with you... and that's one big difference between straight sexuality for men and gay sexuality for men.

Gay sexuality for men is in most cases superficial, limited only to the body, the physical part... even the relationships are mostly about sex... and are therefore not really long lasting... and seldom monogamous.

Gay sexuality for men is primarily about receiving anal and oral sex.

Straight sexuality for men is much deeper. Straight men understand, appreciate and enjoy straight male body for its own sake... while when gays look at a naked man, they're looking at someone who can penetrate them, and naked male bodies have penetrative values for gays, just as it is for women... however straight men desire men's bodies for their own value...

Straight men tend to be very monogamous, and committed in their sexual bonds with another straight man, even if they don't acknowledge the relationship or the interest openly. And they expect such loyalty too... something that gays neither expect nor give.

Another interesting thing that I've observed in me and other straight men is that we tend to be extremely possessive about the bodies of our male lovers... we even get hurt just by the fact that someone touches or sees our men in the wrong places, even if it is for non-sexual purposes... because it is the body and soul itself which is desired.

And gays won't be bothered in most cases, unless, perhaps penetration was involved. Straight men often don't even consider penetration when they desire their male partners or their penises.

And all this, apart from the fact that gays desire men as if they were women desiring men... while straight guys desire straights in the real sense as men desiring men.
Gays are a different species altogether from men (and women). They're not "men who like men," they are "third gender who like men."

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Postby Pazuzu P. Sasquatch » Mon Dec 15, 2008 4:34 am

Well, this thread just went to sh*t. . . . See ya's!
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Postby ballsy25 » Mon Dec 15, 2008 11:18 am

thanks masculinity, glad u like what im tryna do. i checked out yer site and u got some pretty sweet stuff on there.

i been readin' yer posts and i agree wit a lot of the stuff u say, but i do have some differences. unfortunately i don't have time to write too much right now, but i would just say the main thing is that i don't think that all str8 men desire men in the same way. i think if u followed that line of thought out u'd basically be saying there is no difference between gay and straight men or that all men "really" are gay (or desire men) and just refuse to admit it. many men live full, satisfying lives having sex only with women (as, of course, many men live full, satisfying lives having sex only with men). if a dude isn't interested in me sexually, sweet... we can still hang out and be budz, i would never force it (not that im sayin u would, either...)

that said, i DO think all men love masculinity... they just don't love it in the same way. we all find different wayz of living and desiring with respect to masculinity. but these are not "essential" differences between gay and straight men: they are often ambiguous, overlap, or get confused. sometimes U CANT TELL THE DIFFERENCE between a guy havin' love for his boyz, bondin' and sh*t and a guy who wants to fu** his boys lolz.

THATS exactly what im interested in for my blog. i know this topic has gotten off a bit, but i appreciate the comments and i think its relevant because it helps explain da blog.

ima phd student in english and this is what im writin' my dissertation on, i could talk about this sh*t all day! lolz thanks again for da comments boyz.

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Postby Bramasole_iowa » Sun Dec 28, 2008 12:15 pm

I like how he says there are no explicit pics and the first one I see on his link is cunnilingus.
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Postby PhillyAgenda » Mon Dec 29, 2008 11:55 pm

eatin' a girl out should always come wit a blow jobligation!!

lol

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